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stephytee87
writes:I've posted loads of times before but it has finally came to the crunch, and i have decided i need to get over my ex. Its been 6 weeks since we broke up and i have ruined my life through being depressed over it.The thing is, i know this guy is the one, and his reason for splitting up with me was that he needed to be alone, he wanted to do his own thing and not be in a relationship because it wasn't the right time for him. I have hounded him for these 6 weeks, not one week going by without me contacting him, he's never contacted me, although he's friendly enough when he sees or speaks to me. I tried to pretend we could be friends right now, which is what he wants, but obviously i just can't do it and ended up sobbing to him last night. He has told me he does not want a relationship with anyone, and he is sorry for the pain hes caused me. When i asked him if he thinks we are seperated forever he couldn't answer. I have this unshakable feeling that we aren't, and if i had given him this space at the start we might be on better ground now. He didn't end it bcos i wasnt good enuf, or wasn't the one for him but he feels it would be selish of him to carry on feeling like that. His workload is so hectic and he hardly has any spare time which adds to the pressure.I am leaving him alone now, for my own healing and self development, but i cant let hope go. I am going to try and have no contact for a month and see how it goes from there. I might have decided to let it go completely by then, who knows. Any advice?
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reader, Arcada +, writes (19 March 2008):
I understand what you are going through hun, I really do. I did the same as you when my ex left me, for a month I begged and pleaded with him to get back together. BELIEVE ME IT JUST PUSHES THEM AWAY AND MAKES YOU FEEL SHIT!
Be strong and leave him alone, this will make him wonder what's going on, if it doesnt then you have to move on.
While you are giving him space, read the book by Paul Mckenna, "I can mend your broken heart"..... It will give you strength and courage!
Also, keep a diary, write your thoughts down, I have found this useful.
I hope you feel better soon, if you are ever tempted to contact him message me instaead!
YOU CAN DO IT!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2008): leave him alone. if he wants you he knows where you are but no one finds the behaviour you've described attractive. Sobbing, etc that will drive him away
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (19 March 2008):
 What is yours , will be yours.
Hope is eternal but you cannot deny destiny.
It will decide the outcome.
Have trust in God.
Take one day at a time and soon time will pass quickly.
Tomorrow is another new day.
There are many things to see and discover in the world.
Or maybe , you need to rediscover your old world where you
have paid scant attentions to your old friends.
You need to reconnect back with them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2008): My advice is not to contact him again. If in time he contacts you then maybe you have something to work on. the more you chase and hassle him the more it will drive him away.
Good luck
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