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I have to tell him to stop...

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Question - (27 February 2006) 4 Answers - (Newest, 28 February 2006)
A female , *iny writes:

Me and my boyfriend have been together for a very long time... and we havent long started to have sexual intercourse! my boyfriend and i want to make me orgasm. it will be my first orgasm.. but everytime im close to one i always tell him to stop.. its not like i want to but it makes me feel like i need to.. so i push him off me :( i really want this as bad as him. can anyone help?? thanks tiny x

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A male reader, Aiden +, writes (28 February 2006):

my gf did the same, but i told her it'd be great and she orgasms many times during foreplay and sex, give in to the temptation and u'll be happy with the results so will your bf good luck with it

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2006):

Just my opinion but I think this is an emotional issue. Sex is loving, it's deep feelings and having a lot of fun-so just relax and enjoy. Focus on those aspects. Let your bf know, he's not doing anything wrong. Some woman resist orgasm for many reasons. Some feel embarrassed or self-concious of losing control. Some fear 'opening up and being vulnerable. You need to think about what pops into your head, when climax is nearing and rid yourself of any blocks or barriers. It might take a few more times, but focus on how he'll enjoy seeing and hearing you orgasm. I can assure you, men love it. It's quite a turn on for them because men just want to make you their partner the happiest, he can. When having sex with your bf, don't even think of the orgasm. It's not important. It truely is a wonderful experience and the orgasm will likely happen when you least expect it. Just give yourself permission to let yourself go and don't worry. Good Luck

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A female reader, smeedle United Kingdom +, writes (27 February 2006):

smeedle agony auntRelax, what are you afraid of, it will be mind blowing but trust me your head will not blow off.

Just let him pleasure you and lie back, when you feel you are about to orgasm just let the feelings out, shout or pant what ever you feel you want to do, you are only stopping yourself because of your inabitions, let loose feel the energy surge through you as you come.

It is nice, its free and its natural what could be better.

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A female reader, Myobi +, writes (27 February 2006):

Myobi agony auntYou need to identify exactly what it is that makes you want him to stop and then talk about this with him. This is a lovely thing to share with each other and should not be forced if anything at all feels wrong. Good luck and remember, communication is one of the most important things in a relationship.

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