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writes:I am a 45 year old single female who has a 52 year old married female friend. We have known each other for a year and have become very good friends. I am very, very sure she knows that I care for her in a way that would be more than just a friendship. She knows I love her and I am pretty darn sure she know I am in love with her. The problem I am having is not knowing how she truly feels. I don't think she will come right out and tell me and for obvious reasons I won't ask. I have gotten several emails from her that lead me to believe she feels more for me than just friendship. In fact this is a portion of an email she sent me. "U DON'T KNOW HOW LUCKY U R TO BE SINGLE !!!!!!!!!!!!! I GET SO SICK OF BEING MARRIED SOMETIMES!! HECK MOST OF THE TIME!!! then there was another email that she sent and she signed off "U R THE SUNSHINE IN MY DAY.. I MEAN THAT!!!! HUGS AND KISSES TO MY FAVORITE PERSON!! U U U U !!!! MISS AND LOVE YA BUNCHES!!!!! So what do you think. Is she into me more than just as a friend? And if you think so what can I ask her to help me no for sure?? I would like to be as subtle as possible. HELP!!!Thanks a ton agony aunts. Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2006): my advice is she probably does have feelings towards you but she also is playing on the fact that she's flattered that u are in love with her and yes she probably knows ... if i were you i would not tell her how u feel as firstly she IS married whether u like it or not so what is the point of hurting yourself?? u're not 21 anymore notbeing rude in any way but none of us have got time to waste with this cr*p. She is the married one and probably adores u as a friend and MAYBE more but it has to come from HER she has make the move on u, trust me. I personally think if u tell her u are in love with her she will back off and u will never see her again, sounds to me like she has bisexual issues anyway and would never admit it ..but who knows, i dont know what kind of person she is. Chances are if she's a strongdominant type she knows what she's doing, if not then shes oblivious to ur feelings and would be in total shock if u told her! so either would be a disaster, dont do it!!!
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reader, eddie  + ♥, writes (13 November 2006):
 Be very careful. She might just be venting. Also you're reading her messages through the eyes of someone who is hoping for more. In other words, you'll grasp at any tidbit of encouragement she offers you or see things that are not actually there. Also written words can easily be misunderstood. You're also assuming she's a lesbian. MOST of all, she's taken. Tread carefully. You're almost overstepping your bouds and risking your friendship.
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