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I have spent a long time liking him for reasons that are not comprehendible!

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Question - (31 May 2010) 3 Answers - (Newest, 24 April 2011)
A male United States age 30-35, *at1trippy writes:

I'm now going on 3 years that I've liked this guy. I'm gay, he's supposedly straight. Infatuation? Don't think so because it's not like I don't go out with other guys and fall for them. Obsession? Nah cause I'm not dying without him. Crush? I think this is beyond that. So then what is it? I wish I could find the answer to this question. Since the first time I saw him I knew there was something about him beyond my understanding. It wasn't love because I don't believe love is instantaneous, but that there is some higher subconscious connection I am sure there is. I've been in actual love with other guys, but even in that bliss this guy would remain even if just a distant thought. Since perfect doesn't exist then all I can say is that I believe this guy is the closest thing to a perfect match for me. I don't know how many of you here believe that some destinies are intertwined, but something, whether it be a hunch or a message from a higher force, is telling me he is the one for me. It has been so since first we met. At this point, I feel confused and impatient because I can't comprehend just what his part in my life he is playing. Sometimes I begin to think I might be going psycho! Please any insight would be helpful! I'm tired of being in the dark.

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A male reader, dat1trippy United States +, writes (24 April 2011):

dat1trippy is verified as being by the original poster of the question

After 3 1/2 years he is now dating one of my closest cousins........fml....

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A male reader, Jmtmj Australia +, writes (31 May 2010):

Jmtmj agony auntHe's straight and you're gay but a higher force is telling you that he is the one for you...? I see a problem in this equation... Its been 3 years, give it up and admit that he's straight. Stay in contact and if he comes out of the closet down the track then you can express your interest, but if you want to hurt more and waste more time then keep doing what you're doing...

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A female reader, Agelesslovers United Kingdom +, writes (31 May 2010):

Agelesslovers agony auntIf you do believe that you and this guy belong together, then you're probably right. It takes a very very strong force to make you feel so surely about someone. I believe that two people are destined to be together because I've found the one who I'm meant to be with. We've known each other for 5 years and always known we'd be together and now it's all happening :) If this guy claims he's straight, it could be a cover up because he's not comfortable with being gay.. or he could even be bisexual? How often do you talk to him? and are you close? You should try and give him hints about how you feel and maybe he'll give you some back. I'd suggest that you find an oppurtunity to talk about this, maybe even after having a few drinks so the atmosphere is more relaxed? I hope this helped xx

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