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writes:I am 18 and have always had some sexual feelings towards men as well as women. I assumed everybody goes through this as a teenager, although the feelings are still there. I am sure I will be marrying a woman eventually as my feeling for females is more dominant, yet I still feel aroused my males. I often dream about them. Am I bi? Reply to this Question
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reader, dude27  +, writes (17 December 2011):
i went through what ur going through now and im pretty much goin through it still at 29. you maybe need to try safe sex with a guy to see if you like it may help u make up ur mind. I occassionally meet up with guys and fool around and its something im exploring. your first time may not give u the answer may have to try a few times. If the thought of being with a guy sexually freaks u out dnt do it and wait till ur ready to explore. If u dnt wanna do it then theres your answer ur probably str8 but in this case ur bi curious i reackon. Good Luck and dnt worry about labels it does ur head in think of it as you love people :)
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reader, bluecow +, writes (15 December 2011):
 If straight is black, and Gay is white... then there is a whole spectrum of shades of grey in between.
Sexuality isnt something that can be pigeonholed as easily as straight, gay or bi.
There are straight people who have had feelings for same sex people in the past, there are gay people who have had full relationships with the opposite sex. Some gay people are a darker shade of grey than others, some straight people are a lighter shade of grey.
Many many more people than will admit it openly. Will have had some feelings for the same/opposite sex at some point in their life.
Perhaps you are truely bisexual, but as you mention you prefer ladies... then perhaps your on the darker shade of grey.
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reader, rivi  +, writes (15 December 2011):
You say you 'often dream about [ men ] '.
Is that more so than about women ?
It seems to me your best option would be to try to meet another young man with a view to a sexual encounter of some kind and see how the reality [ as opposed to the dreaming ] feels like.
Maybe ditto with one or more women. Not many ppl think there is anything wrong about homosexuality any more so if yoy have desires in that direction best would be to meet someone in a similar situation and explore,
There's plenty of websites where you could meet someone....in the first instance somewhere public for a coffee or whatever to see if you both wished to progress to more intimate moments....
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (15 December 2011):
 You may be bi but this alone doesn't really say it. Most people, more then would admit it, have these thoughts at some point in your life and it is just part of you figuring out who you are inside.
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