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I have premature ejaculation and it ended a relationship already. Any advice on how I can prevent it from happening again.

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Question - (20 December 2006) 1 Answers - (Newest, 21 December 2006)
A male age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Hello there, after 2 years of being single I have just started seeing a great girl who I really like and I think she feels the same about me, but even though everything in the early stages is going great I already have the relationship doomed as I suffer from premature ejaculation. To also complicate matters I also have an overactive cowper gland (the gland which produces pre-cum) and even the slightest arousal produces a large amount, so even when she starts messing around down there and notices I'am wet she will think straight away that there is a problem.

When we reach the sex stage (if it gets that far) my idea is to explain the problem to her beforehand just to warn her that it could be over pretty quick rather than having to explain afterwards.

My assumption is that she won't be able to put up with the frustration, as I can understand it would be frustrating for any girl in this situation, and she will then end the relationship.

I didn't really have this problem with my previous girlfriend as even though I explained to her she wasn't really interested in sex from day 1 and on the occasions we did have sex, which was rarely often, I was more bothered about her being satisfied than she was.

Sex since then hasn't been a problem as it has mainly been when I have been drunk with the effect of the alcohol making me last longer.

So is some advice anybody can give me on how to explain things to this girl or do I just have to hope that she's understanding?

Thank You

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A reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2006):

Try masturbation. With my first and second intimate companions, I used to ejaculate pretty quickly. After masturbating 5 to 10 times a day in the early millenia, I have pretty much exercised myself to last for a very long time or basically, I can control whenever I want to ejaculate (within reason). Nowadays, I just mb 1 or 2 times a day. It's good for sex. NOT TOO much, cuz it will numb the feeling a bit and oral sex wouldn't be as great.

Really, I don't think you actually have to explain anything. You just need to practice, over and over again, either throughing mbing or with your gf. Plus, there are other methods in getting your gf off without intercourse. It took me well over two years to learn to control myself.

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