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writes:Hi, I don't know whether anybody has advice on this, but I would be really grateful if you do.I have no confidence whatsoever! It really gets me down and stops me from doing a lot of things. One of the things that I really want to do is to sing. I believe I have a good singing voice and my sister heard me by accident once and she said I was very good. Since she heard me she has asked me to sing a couple of times and even though she's already heard me, whenever I open my mouth nothing comes out! I would really love to make singing a part of my life as in career wise but this low confidence thing is holdling me back :(Again, I would be very grateful for any advice. x
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reader, boogiechick  +, writes (30 March 2008):
i know exactly how you feel! i do! i was there myself a couple of years ago.
the thing is... if you don't believe in yourself, no one will. so just do it. I'm studying music atm. It's the best thing i could have ever done. BE STRONG! BELIEVE IN YOURSELF!
And let your sister be there for you. My sister would always say i was the worst singer in the world. (now she begs me to put my songs on her ipod!)
TAKE CARE!
(message me and we can speak about music and confidence!)
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reader, Ask oldersister  +, writes (30 March 2008):
 Confidence has to be earned, it is not granted to you in proportion to whatever innate gifts you possess. If you have a great voice, you have an opportunity to build this confidence by developing it. You will be subjected to constructive criticism and will feel like quitting because you don't see this as an opportunity, you see it as a failure. You only fail yourself and give yourself permission to not have confidence when you do this.
In order to build confidence, you will have to give yourself permission to see criticism as a way to build confidence and not give up. Every time you do this and not quit, you will become stronger, improve your skills, and earn confidence. It's a choice and I hope you make it.
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reader, WizardOfWaz + ♥, writes (30 March 2008):
I gave some tips on the subject of nervousness some time ago (see link below)which might help you and others handle situations that make you nervous. My own singing voice has been likened to a squeeling duck being put through a clothes mangle, so the more dulcet-toned people like yourself getting yourselves out there the better!
Link:http://www.dearcupid.org/question/never-had-a-bf-and-i-wrongly-blame.html
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reader, Anne48  +, writes (30 March 2008):
 Hello there,
Are you sure it's your self-confidence? It could be just a common anxiety. It sounds like you may be a person who just needs to practise more often, singing in front of groups of people. There are a lot of wonderful, confident people who 'freeze' up when speaking, singing, performing for a group of people. And even the most well-seasoned singer get's stage fright. (Barbara Streisand suffered with this) But they still do it. They face that fear and get out there and do it. May I suggest you keep trying to sing in front of your sister. And once you are comfortable with that, sing in front of a couple, well trusted friends. Then when you are comfortable with that, gather a few more friends to hear you sing. The more you do it, the better you will be and your anxiety will ease up, maybe even disappear. Just give yourself time and getting used to performing. In time this anxiety will go away, especially after all your mates, family and peers tell you what an awesome singer you are. Reach for you dreams if that is what you want. Just iron out these little fears, work hard at that, and you will be on your way. Maybe this link below will help you:http://www.anxietycoach.com/social1.htm
Anne
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2008): personally i believe that you can be anything you want..you might not have confidence in yourself but it seems to me that your sister has confidence in you and im sure shes not the only one...i think you should sing whenever you want because if you have a beautiful voice share it with the world...you'd be surprised at the reactions you can get
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