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writes:I recently bumped into a female friend from years ago.There was some chemistry in the air and we reacted. The other day when this girl came to see me, She totally sexually dominated me and told me point blnak what she was doing I was bit taken aback as I am used to taking to lead role in bed myself. This girl was calling the shots and I was her plaything. Her vocabulary was astonishing. She was saying such rude things to me. I was a little bit intimidated. I have never been subjected to being dominated by a girl before. It felt a bit weird. Am I supposed to seize back controll or something or should I let her do to me, What she wants? Reply to this Question
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reader, gabba's say +, writes (25 February 2008):
gabba's say is verified as being by the original poster of the question You know, I think this scenario may work out fine for me. I have not felt this happy in years. I feel liberated. In fact I would go as far as to say, I feel as liberated as a "Death Camp Jew" On V-E Day. Thanks for your advice.
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (21 February 2008):
Boy are you in trouble! This girl's sexuality is really not compatible with yours.You are just hanging on.Talking of your next date.You need a master plan on how to survive otherwise come up with an excellent excuse to postpone indefinitely.Calling for backup may not be so welcome by her as you are the only "victim" she wants,her lover.Either brace yourself or break yourself.
Good Luck.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (20 February 2008):
 Tell her you're cool about it (if you are of course) but set BOUNDARIES!!! Don't let her get you into a situation you can't get out of eg tied up and unable to get free or it could turn out nasty. You NEED to set boundaries with her or she'll totally take over and that can be nasty (she sounds pretty serious to me).
~Eve~
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (20 February 2008):
 Me thinks you need some reinforcements dude. Get one or two of your buddies (mates) in on this !
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reader, gabba's say +, writes (20 February 2008):
gabba's say is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have met this girl since and she was even more extreme this time. What was intended to be 2 hours fun ended up being an 11 hour ordeal which left me a bit traumatised and feeling like I had been involved in a road traffic accident. the thing is, She come out with all this rude talk which really gets me going. She threatens me with her friends, saying could I handle 3 women at once, and I would just have to sit there like a practice dummy while she instructed her "helper friends" how to do oral on me the right way. That is just the tip of the iceberg, She says she is coming to my house this weekend wearing nothing but a long mac with sexy underwear underneath and is going to put me through the wars. Dont get me wrong, this is doing my ego the world of good but I feel a bit out of my depth. She also want me to go with her to get loads of mad sex toys and bits I know little about. I need help and advice quickly!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2008): You need to decide what YOU want.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (14 February 2008):
This has only happened a few times in my life, but depending on the situation, it can be a lot of fun. If it is only "role playing" of sorts, it's great. If it gets painful in any way, it would time to back away or get your ass out of it.
For me those times, it was just a game the gal wanted to play for fun. I've never been into the sadism-masochism kind of thing either way and would not have played, but a little domination by the gal can be fun if not in a serious way.
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reader, chlez83 +, writes (14 February 2008):
There are two options here.Either you try and do things your own way that's if what she's doing isn't enjoyable to you.Or you can lie back and enjoy if she's good at what she does.A compromise could be exchanging leads.Do it your way one time and her way the next.
Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2008): Obviously this is what floats her boat! If I was in your position (pun intended) I'd lay back and enjoy it. When you've had enough of being dominated tell her it's now time for her to get on HER back for a change and swop roles. A bit of dirty talk in the bedroom can only spice things up unless you're genuinely shocked and offended by it. Steer clear of fluffy handcuffs though, just in case she loses the key.
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