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writes:Last year my ex cheated on me with two of my best friends I still liked him so after 5 months we started scoring again (going out without the titles eg. bf and gf) its been awhile now since i ended it and hes had 2 other girlfriends since. I keep mesuring up all boys i like to him and they arnt the same. I liked him so much. How can i get over him properly and stop making hime the boy all boys have to beat as you can see hes not the best fish in the sea? How can I start to except boys the way they are?
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reader, Country Woman  +, writes (13 January 2010):
 My word take off the rose tinted glasses eh!
What a sleeze, to cheat on you with 2 not 1 of your friend's when you were with him and they were SO CALLED BEST FRIEND'S, not in my book they weren't.
Anyone who could even look at a friend of mine would be out on his ear, you not only took that on the chin but you then allowed him to be with you when you weren't together, was this sexual at that time?
If so, why? Had you not learnt your lesson the first time or were you just so happy to have any attention from him that you allowed him to use you like a doormat?
Sweetheart, any other guy would be a total improvement compared to him. No he wasn't a decent fish, he was the slime on the bottom of the sea.
The fact that he picks up girls and uses them in that way means he is a complete PLAYER. One to totally avoid in the future, they think they are ALL that and then some.
You need to get to know a guy and talking to them initially would be a start, if someone is keen enough then let them actually date you and don't give out straight away as they will NEVER respect you, believe me.
Have maybe more than one guy as a friend and get to know them, sometimes if you know someone you can like them as well as you get to know their character first before just looking for the eye candy.
Maybe the problem is that you are looking at boys and if they are trying to score with girls they are not right for you. Maybe you need to look at someone who is not 18 and still testing out their wings but maybe someone just a few years older than yourself and someone who actually treats you like a woman and not a girl.
Keep us posted eh!
BFN
Country Woman
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