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writes: hi all,I think i maybe depressed. I am not sure as i just cant understand anything.Right i live abroad with my husband, dont have the language (trying to learn for the last 3 months) very difficult. Anyhow, i have lost all interest in doing things, like his friends birthday is next weekend, we have to go out but i would prefer not to, his friend is nice, his girlfriends is bossy and domineering, its all her friends that we are going out with. I dont even have the interest of going outside, i basicly stay indoors all the time as i am so tired.I have no friends of my own here, i dont want to be down for my husbands sake, he is doing his best. I cant get a job because of the language, his family do not speak the english, I really want to go back to my own country, but even if i do this, i am not sure if my husband really wants to do this, i dont even know if i want to. My sisters are great only the men they are with, are always smart towards me (this puts me off going back to my own country), my friends are all in relationships and have cut themselves off. Where i come from also, people are so nosey, i left home when i was 19, dont particularly feel my dads wants me around as he is always getting at me, my younger sister is his pet.I dont really know what to do with my life, i want kids, but now i think its all to much of an effort. My husband gets annoyed at me and tells me just to go home, but i really dont know if this is what i want to do.What should i do...please help me, i am so tired of thinking and trying to decide about eveything??
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2008): Force yourself to go outside every day, try to do excersise and eat healthily. Also contine to meet people, Force yourself with every sinew in your body.
If you don't depression will set in deeper.
Try to get a hobby, be busy.
I know its not easy, sometimes getting up to make a cup of tea can feel like a mammoth task.
But try try try and try again.
Break thing down into small chunks.
I'm going to make some tea, might involve getting the milk.
If on Monday thats as far as you get, on Tuesday make it to the kettle.
I know its hard i've been there.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2008): Yes i'd say your definately depressed, the doom and gloom you paint is typical 'black' thinking.
The first thing is to gain back a bit of control over your life.
Its no use asking us to make a decision for you, because that is not getting you back in control.
The first thing to decide is wether you want to go home or not.
If can't decide try this, toss a coin pick heads/tails and your decisions.
Toss the coin
Whats the outcome? do you want to toss again? whats your gut feeling to the outcome. This should help you decide what you really want. Then make steps in that direction.
Good luck
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