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I have feelings for my boyfriend's best friend but he has a girlfriend.

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Question - (31 October 2010) 1 Answers - (Newest, 31 October 2010)
A female United Kingdom age 22-25, anonymous writes:

Okay, so I've been dating my boyfriend for a couple months now. And the one thing on the back of my mind, is his best friend. I've started developing feelings for him, and it's just come on so randomly. There's just something about him, that clicks for me. And I love my boyfriend, but I know that if I continue falling for his best friend, I'm going to be head over heels for him.

But, the plot thickens. He has a girlfriend. A girlfriend who just doesn't deserve him at all, she flirts with my boyfriend even when he tells her to back off, and she just takes him for granted completely, and it makes me really angry because he doesn't deserve it at all. And there's another twist.. one of my best friends likes him too, I don't know if she's falling for him, or if she's in love with him. But I do know she likes him, because she confides in me about him, obviously she hasn't picked up on my feelings for him which I'm quite glad about really.

I don't know what to do, I have a feeling that if I keep going on like this I'm going to be in love with him, but he's in love with his girlfriend, and I don't think he sees me as more than a friend, and I doubt he would hurt my boyfriend in that way..

Any advice is welcome, tell me your own experience if you want, I need advice because I don't know what to do and I'm scared of making the wrong decision..

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A female reader, janniepeg Canada + , writes (31 October 2010):

janniepeg agony auntYou should stop hanging out with your boyfriend's friend. For some time forget about the other guy. When you are alone with your boyfriend and you still feel that something is missing then you know he's not the one for you. You are young you have the right to sample but not when you are attached. You don't have to tell your boyfriend everything, just tell him that you feel awkward around them, and just emphasize that his girlfriend is flirting with your boyfriend. Use that as the main reason to stop contact with both of them. However if your relationship doesn't work out with your boyfriend, then you have to tell him you don't have the same feelings anymore. Don't blame it on his friend's girlfriend, or tell him you fell in love with his friend. Just say sorry you led him on and don't date his friend right after.

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