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writes:I am in some desperate need of some help! I have a daughter who will be 7 this year, and a niece who just turned 6. They have obviously grown up together. On three separate occasions my sister and I have caught them kissing. We tried to reprimand them without trying to lose their trust, god forbid if someone ever tried to do that to them. (I pray to god it will never happen) but we want them to be able to tell us if it ever occurred. We're just not sure what to do at this point. Everyone says it's a phase... I'm not really comfortable with that solution. Please if anyone has any advice...
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2007): I agree with marie claire. When I was that age me and my sister, she's a year older than me, used to act out scenes we had seen on tv. There was absolutely nothing sexual about it. It's hard to explain. Not because we wanted each other but because we were curious about grown ups and things they do, like kissing. We never french kissed but we would pretend to be kissing like in the movies or like our parents did.And we turned out just fine. We are both straight. She lives in NYC. Got a great job. Beautiful apartment. Hot british boyfriend. I just moved to Florida, finishing my degree in arts/humanities. single.In a few years they won't even remember or care that it happened. And they're going to be too busy thinking about boys, anyways.
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (9 August 2007):
 As an adult you are viewing this as a potentially sexual act but these children may not see it that way - it could be an expression of affection or just practising on each other and is entirely normal behaviour for their developmental ages. I vaguely remember kissing another girl at 6 in school out of affection and being told off by a teacher - it was an innocent act but the teacher saying something stuck in my mind until I was older and could understand why. If you make a big deal about this then these children will be confused about it. You could have a discussion about inappropriate/ appropriate ways of showing love and affection but I wouldn't be so worried.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2007): When I was 12, my cousin wanted to play "prom" she said she'd be the guy & I'd be the girl. I didn't want to play at all. But she threw herself on top of me and started humping me, and trying to kiss me, pretending she was a guy raping me... My mom walked in & seen it. I was so humiliated. Maybe they are just playing some little game. Something they saw on the t.v. There are so many sexually explicit images now a days. You should sit them down & ask them where they got the idea to kiss, and explain to them that it's wrong because they are related, and they are both girls and too young.
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reader, chrissy32789 +, writes (9 August 2007):
 Hi, everybody goes through this, but just sit them down together, and explain to them it is not ok to kiss anybody, and if anyone ever kisses them they should come and tell you or your sister.
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