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I have been chatting with a girl I suspect is a well-known athlete. Should I reveal my suspicion or let her reveal that to me?

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Question - (12 August 2015) 3 Answers - (Newest, 13 August 2015)
A male United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I met a wonderful girl online. We chatted a lot about things dear to us like our hobbies, our pets, our experiences and our views on life.

After a few times chatting I gleaned enough info from her to realize that she is actually sort of a celebrity. She's not an actress or anything, but her family is very well-known and she excels at the sport she participates in.

She has never bragged about this to me. We have just chatted like two people sitting next to each other at a bar. In fact, if anything, it is her who keeps asking if she makes me uncomfortable.

My question is:

Now that I know who she is should I tell her or should I just keep pretending I have no idea who she is?

It doesn't make any difference to me, but I keep thinking she keeps trying to hide who she is from me so as not to influence my opinion. I just want to tell her: "I know who you are and it doesn't matter!"

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A reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2015):

OMG yes, say something!!!!!!!! Dont act clueless. She's probably sitting there going, omg, does he really not know who I am? How is that possible, is he pretending not to know? Why doesn't he say something if he does? on and on are the questions going in her mind. Don't tell her it doesn't matter either, why dont you just say something like

"Hey, I dont know how you feel about all this, and it's why I havn't said anything until now but i know who you are, Im just wondering why you seem so hesitant to talk about it? That's why I was giving you a little time to tell me on your own"

..or something along those lines and see what she says.....

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2015):

No, absolutely do not mention this until she does AND when she does just say "oh...is it a problem?" Play this totally and utterly cool. She just wants to get to know someone who can see she's a normal, vulnerable human being like anyone else. If it really doesn't matter to you, why would you even bring it up in the first place?

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (12 August 2015):

Honeypie agony auntNope, let HER share that when SHE is ready.

If she SHE who you think she is... and you tell her "I know who you are and it doesn't matter!" she might bolt.

If she is not... who you think she is... she might bolt too, because she will feel like she can't measure up to THAT one.

Why not instead try and find a way to met up in person?

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