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I have an annoying little Sister--how should I deal with her?

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Question - (21 December 2007) 42 Answers - (Newest, 19 March 2013)
A female United Kingdom age 22-25, anonymous writes:

I have a younger sister who is always getting on my nerves. She is always taking and using my stuff without asking first. This may not seem like much but after a while it does get on your nerves, especially if your parents don't do anything about it. She never gets told off or anything whenever she does it. I really can't handle it anymore. She gets on my nerves all the time but my parents or friends don't realise how much it gets to me and usually think i'm over reacting. I guess you have to have a sister to realise what it is really like. Please tell me how to deal with it. It's annoying me too much now!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2013):

Sisters can get really annoying, so just go into your bathroom for about 10 minutes and calm down. Even though you just want to yell at her, don't. It will just make things worse.

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A female reader, Choclate Addict United States +, writes (8 December 2012):

I have an 8 year old little sister, and I know what you mean. My sibling gets everything she wants, and throws these temper tantrums when something doesn't go her way. When she is angry, she makes everyone else grumpy. I am nice to her when she is nice to me, but whn she gets on my nerves alt, I break. I explode at her and get in trouble. My advice is to keep your anger at your sister in when your parents are around, then annoy her when they aren't. If she tattles, say "She hit me really hard, so I didn't want to hit back!" My parents like not hitting back, so that works for me. But always have an excuse, and an annoying strategy ready.

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A female reader, bubbles647 Australia +, writes (20 July 2012):

My little sister is so annoying too! she always gets me in trouble she always goes in my room and touches my stuff but then she turns all sweetheart and gives me a million hugs its cute just ignore her when she is annoying you.

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A female reader, Trin2010 United States +, writes (16 July 2011):

you just try your best to stop giving her attention because afterwhile you are gonna start seeing that she will will not try to bother you anymore because you dont pay her no mind!!!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2011):

Hey im going through the same thing but the bad part about is that she's my sister by my dad so her mom is my step mom and she is so nasty to me she acts like that girl is a sweetheart and so does my dad my little sister is 6 and she is agravating but i just would like to say just think about how she likes attention thats all they want is attention and if you give it to them their gonna do it over again dont worry about just dont give her attention.

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A female reader, question girl Australia +, writes (2 July 2011):

you should warn them but if they don't stop you should tell her that you will do similar to her favourite thing

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A male reader, rharris United Kingdom +, writes (16 March 2011):

I know how you feel. When ever I go into my room I always end up finding him trying to steal my stuff. His excuse is "mum said I could". I then have to get him out of my room which isn't easy cause I always have to do it physically. So I push him out of the room and he starts fake crying and screaming to get my mums attention and when my mum gets upstairs he instantly stops crying. Then he tells my mum that "he hit me so hard that I started crying". And then my mum says I need pysciatric therapy when I actually haven't done anything!!!

My advice is to go to another family member and explain to them whats going on and they can help.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2011):

Gawsh... Ive got the same sister. She gets me mad and I yell then my mom takes away my Dsi and I get grounded. She also annoys me by saying Huh? till I get mad and yell and throw stuff at her and hit her. And then she fake cries and I get in loads of trouble.

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A female reader, kasie lee Australia +, writes (5 February 2011):

i have a little sister too. She listens to my conversations, looks at my emails, and screws up my relonship with boys. Like my boyfriend think she is SOO weird. She runs up to me and points out all my flaws in front of him like....nice zit you got going their or somthing weird and TOTTALLY RUDE!! she drives me crazy and my parents dont care but when I do ANYTHING to their little girl they FLIP out!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2010):

Ok I have 2, 7 yr old sisters who do a lot of the same things. In ur case if u put things out of ur sister's reach she can't take it...maybe if u can get ur parents to let's you get a door with a lock that will also work. I hope this helps u

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A female reader, r dadi Zimbabwe +, writes (21 August 2010):

just leave her alone whenever she is annoying just be nice to her sooner or later she is just gonna realise that nothing she does can annoy you and she is gonna stop. trust me i also have one.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2010):

what i do is ask her "Do you want me to set-up a game on the laptop?" I hope that helps;]

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2010):

I got it worse than everyone my sister bugs me all the time and she never gets in trouble for anything my mom is always on her side and the only one i can depend on is my bro and dad but they not always there when i need them the best thing to do is yell at her and try to act like you can't take it anymore and your parents might take your side and if that doesn't work try to trick her into leaving you alone long enough so she'll fall asleep

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A reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2010):

oh i know how you feel, I have two little sisters and i can so relate. Both of my sistrs are teens now, but as they grew older i noticed how they teamed up at times, this maybe because they have shared a room most of their life. now a days, they love to go into my room and watch tv, even though its ok, they take advantage of the fact i let my younger sister use it. I also do alot for them and they are never grateful. My parents at times take my side at times,but i still get into trouble even though i am 20 years old and they are 16 and 14.I have trouble keeping my frustrations to myself and keeping my emotions under control when i get into an arguement. With my parents even if I was justifying what was going on i get into trouble even when it was their fault to begin with.Ignoring them at times is really difficult at times.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2010):

if she buggs you just go off and ignore her and dont tell your parents because they only ask you what did you do just shove it off and even if it happened a million times and if you act like you dont care shell realize why am i doing this no one listens or cares and sheel just lay off it but this might take a while maybe a year for her to mature and when she does bug you go of by your self and relax

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2010):

My sister does the same thing, but acts like i am dumb. You have to ignore her and not do anything fun with her. Maybe then she will stop. Trust me, it works.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2010):

Sounds like me!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2010):

hello i know how control her have and all same as what you said your should try to stop having fun with her you can still play with her just try not to have as much fun with her and when she is annoying you just try to ignore it and just walk away step 3 come up with clever comebacks like when she is calling you dumb and stuff step 4 try to ignore her like she dose to you........ then she knows how it feels step 5 if that does not work stop staring special moments with her ...last step and tell her to stop if she does not do that just listen to your parents and stay on the good side so i hope i helped please write back bye.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2010):

OMG i know what you mean i have like the worst sis ever she is always going in my room with my cousins to play with my makeup and mess up my room!!! THen when i get home and yell i get in trouble like really? THen when she just ios beimng the brat she is under neath her messed up hair i would hit her back cuz she hit me and he goes and fake cries to my mom and i get grounded

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2009):

Well, I'm in the same situation.

I have a little sister just like yours. & I know exactly how you're feeling. What you should do is, just talk to her, & try to make things better. Little siblings don't know half of the time over the things that they're doing nor saying. & when they're older & you bring it up, they'll realize how much of a burden they used to be. I promise you that she'll eventually grow out of it. It's a normal phase & it's something we all big brothers & sisters have to deal with. There's really nothing drastic or huge we can do to stop them from bothering us, actually. I mean if our parents don't do anything about it, then all we can do is try to work with them, no matter how impossible or hard it may seem to be. So just try it, & see what happens. :]

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A reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2009):

ive got two i here your pain.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2009):

I know how you feel when you can't handle a younger sister.Because your younger sister gets full attention from everybody also she gets you into trouble when you didn't even do anything wrong and that can really get on your nerves.

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A female reader, RELISYS United Kingdom +, writes (27 October 2009):

I have a little sister to she takes things without asking and I find it really annoying as well the best thing to do is not tell on her because you get vangry when your mum won't listen and you shout and get into trouble, just wait until your mum notices her doing something and then its her introuble not you

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2009):

I have an annoying little sister, she alwayse take my stuff without asking me. sometimes i loose my brain. i am big, but she wants me to play barbies everyday. The best is that mom realize this .

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2009):

I understand. I have a little sister too. She just messed up my account for some games, and... I just can't explain it. I really wanted to kick her. Well, I wish I can, because my parents are around, and she'll definitely yelp if I actually do so. Well now I can't play MapleStory or Combat Arms. I gotta find out the password to a random e-mail address to retrieve the password.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2009):

I gots a lil sis too. We fight alot about everything but like you said, parents seem to on their side all the time, but I've learnt that you gotta look both ways, not just your point of view but also your sister's, even if it takes you a whole lotta consideration to decide to be the 'wrong' even when you are 100% sure that you are the 'right'. When I tried to do this all that effort made me think: "She won't even notice me trying to be kind to her, so why bother?" but I realise that she will acknowledge it.

Sure it takes time and takes abit of effort but it works for me. Nowadays we get along fine most of the time but doesn't mean we don't fight anymore. I now realize that most of those fights are actually really me not wanting to admit that I am the wrong one and learnt that all it takes is a little word called 'sorry'. It's alot harder than it sounds but it sure pays off :)

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A female reader, sugerpup99 Canada +, writes (11 April 2009):

Ha,I have the exact same problem... infact my sister even digs through my garbage!!! And your right it gets soooo annoying somtimes it just plain gross!But I learned by saying 'You know sis do you like it when I try to annoy you?Then dont do it to me, it just makes you a hipicrit!

sugerpup99

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2008):

I Know Your Pains!!!!!

I got a little sis too. It's Torture... And Parents do NOTHING Bout it!!!!!

Anyway... She always gets what she wants. Treated Like a Princess... 24/7

So I Say... Try going to a summer camp! i got a whole WEEK away.

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A female reader, aylissaboo United States +, writes (30 November 2008):

i know how u feel about your little sisters i have the same problems but i share a room with her and she keep going threw my stuff and she keep sayin that shes findin it and my mom said she can keep it and i go take something of hers and my mom said give it back so my problem is i share a room with her and i can not get out of it also she be talkin about me and my bro so we talk back and my mom tells us to quit talkin about her and she says nothin to my little sis ,and i always clean the room and my little sis comes in and mess it up i tell my mom but she told me to clean it up again so all u big sisters out there little sister make u want to pull your hair out but instad pull theres out[sike dont pull there hair out inless u want to]

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2008):

My sisters do not borrow my stuff (probably because we dont like the same stuff), but they do many other things. I say tell your parents that you don't care if she looks up to you and that you have no sympathy to her because of that, and that it doesn't give her the right to invade your privacy. So if you convince your parents, they will deal with her.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2008):

I have two little sisters and they both do this to me! They sneak into my room and use my makeup, take my clothes, and they even take naps in my bed! I have a lock, but my parnets wont let me lcok it so theres nothing i can do about it! It's so annoying! I tell them to stay out, and I complain to my parents but they just say it means they look up to me and admire me. Sometimes i wish they would admire me less. . . So i just try and do it back to them but then my parents tell me that i should "respect my sisters privacy". AAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!! I dont think you can win against little sisters. . . But maybe if your parents will let you lock your doors then YOU could keep your little sisters out!

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A male reader, CoolDude1212 United States +, writes (3 July 2008):

idont know i gots a annoying sister and i always get in trouble i guess justignore her and deal with it . learn to pick your room doors lock so u can lock your self out and u can get in but your sister cant.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2008):

i have the same problem my little sister always wants to use my computer or use my ipod. sometimes i get so tired i just hit one good time and she stops for like 30 minutes,lolz!but you have to just take control and suck it up. eventually shell realize that she dosnt need to act like that anymore. until then just smack that spoiled ho!!(juss kidding but smack her 4 real)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2008):

my sister is the same as yours she is always anoying me !!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2008):

http://www.wikihow.com/Deal-with-Little-Sisters

This is the perfect little site that i found because of my little sisters. I am 9 years older than the youngest and she gets on my nerves so bad at times i want to rip my hair out and be completly bald.

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A female reader, xxxloulouxxx United Kingdom +, writes (21 February 2008):

trust me, i know exactly how your feeling. no one understands what your going through and your sister always gets her own way, no matter what she does. if she does something like barge into your bedroom and take stuff, she doesnt get told off, but when you do it to her.... you get busted. i have recently decided to totally ignore her... i know this sounds hard n trust me it is... but i'm saving up for a bedroom lock and you should be too. this will allow you to have some privacy and trust me............ your not the only one with a spoilt little sister!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2008):

heyah i know how you feel because i have the same kind if sister as you.

Please Help Me!!!!!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2008):

Same here my parents always say she is the angel and i get sick of it. She always gets her way even if she hits or kicks or pinches me. She takes my stuff to i would just not do anything and she will end up getting tired of u not getting mad thats what i have been doing And now she doesnt take my stuff as much i think they just do it to annoy you

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A female reader, truly_unique New Zealand +, writes (26 December 2007):

ok im just going to stick up a bit for the younger sisters as i feel it is my duty. Has it ever occured to you that she looks up to you?? that she only uses your stuff because its urz? and everything you have is so much cooler than hers? even if its not its stil that mentality. i know beczuse i do the Exact same thing with my older sister. she has the coolest clothes. the nicest bags. and i look up to her. alot. even though it drives her mad!!!! however a little dose of her own medicine wouldnt be out of the question. thers nothing that will sort out her behaviour then you doing the same thing. if she complains then u explain that she does it all the time why cant you?

it sorted me out

but becareful. if she is as skillfull as i suspect she will be (younger sisters have a talent for this) she may just sneak into your room and use your makeup when your not ther. so hide your valuables and take the smaller stuff with you if you can. and i agree to getting that lock ;)

good luck

and try to remember that she does look up to you.

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A male reader, Uncle Trev United Kingdom +, writes (23 December 2007):

Assuming you have separate rooms could you ask your parents to have a lock on your bedroom door where both you and them could have a key to it.

You need to explain to your sister that you will not tollerate her behaviour.

Surely your parents would understand your need for a bit of privacy at your age even if your sister doesn't.

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A male reader, leonard j, Douglas Philippines +, writes (22 December 2007):

There isn't much you can do about your little Sister,as I see it,but you can kill her with kindness. Have a wonderful Christmas and a Happy New Year. from the Philippines.

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A female reader, Landie South Africa +, writes (22 December 2007):

Landie agony auntI know what you going through. MY sister is just as bad if not worse. She is always giving attitude and when I say some thing about it its me that gets in trouble. Even when I just stay quiet i'm in trouble.

Its a normal thing, the youngest child gets everything they want and never gets in trouble. Only thing you can do is ignore it as hard as it is. And if you have the key to your bedroom use it. It personaly comes in very handy to keep her out. Other then that unfortunatly there is nothing you can do.

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