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I have a working, open marriage. Could I have scared off a guy I met?

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Question - (29 May 2008) 5 Answers - (Newest, 29 May 2008)
A female United States age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Hello,

I need some help. Here's the deal my husband and i have an open marriage. We love eachother, and this WORKS for us. I met a guy at the bar one night as i hung with my sister. He was an amazing looking man nothing happened that night. I told him i was married.I proceeded to contact him 2 weeks later and asked him to met with me. So he did. We went to a concert got very close. This feeling was something i have never felt with my husband. He asked me to his place i went.. agian nothing happened except for making out. Well that was 2 weeks ago since then he asked me to get coffee over text and i responded back and never heard from him agian. .. no call no text. etc.. could i have scared him off? I have text him on accident and then he responded with a cute remark, but this is too weird for me. All of a sudden he is not interested? he is 12 years younger than me...if it is just sex to him too why doesn't he contact me?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2008):

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I would call him.. i am not to sure he will respond but thank you for your kind words.. I am thinking it was a sex thing for him too that is why i am confused..

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A female reader, Twirly United Kingdom +, writes (29 May 2008):

Twirly agony auntOoo Thankyou for the update.

Another option is that he likes you and doesn't see himself being able to share you. It would be quite a big factor for me if I met a man who had an open marriage, I don't think Id want to share him with anyone!

Perhaps you could make a bold move and call him, and just ask him outright if you being married is an issue for him.

If he's worth his salt he'll tell you the truth and if not then perhaps he's just not the right guy for you.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2008):

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Yes he knew from the get go that i was married and i don't think he minded. He asked me to coffee after he knew..?

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A female reader, Twirly United Kingdom +, writes (29 May 2008):

Twirly agony auntI think a lot of people would be a little concerned about entering into a realtionship with someone who was married.

Did you explain to him that yours is an open marriage? Perhaps he simply thinks you're a cheater?

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A male reader, Danielepew Mexico +, writes (29 May 2008):

Danielepew agony auntYes, maybe you scared him. Getting involved with a person who has some sort of a commitment can mean serious trouble. My guess is he thought he doesn't need that kind of problems.

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