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writes:hey. Ok what the problem is, is that i feel the need for a baby. dont worry i am old enough but im a virgin and all my family ever says to me is dont ruin your life with having children. im the youngest in my family and i do have a wonderful boyfriend but when i see mothers and their children something inside says "that could be me" and i wish it was. When i go home i almost feel like crying as i dont have a child to love because i feel that if i did become pregnant my family would frown on it. please help me someone xx
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reader, TasteofIndia  + ♥, writes (7 April 2007):
 Hi sweetness,
I also love babies and get painful, painful stomach twisting jealousy when I see pregnant women or women with their babies. However, I do want to wait until I'm done with college and in theory, married. That's just me.
Would your family frown upon it because you're not married? Or do they just not want you to have children ever? If it's the latter, well... who cares what they think? Some women are meant to be mother's, and all though your family is important they shouldn't get in the way of your dream to have children.
It doesn't say how old you are... if you are younger than 23, then I see why your parents would want you to wait. You've got an awful lot of living to do! And don't give up on finding someone to love and to marry. You say you have a great boyfriend - have fun with that relationship and concentrate on making it as sturdy as you can.
Maybe, until you have a baby you can do what I do. I have a large plastic bin that I have filled with stuff for my future baby. Cute clothes, toys, etc. I also have a little journal that I write "Dear Future Baby" notes in... it helps soothe the urge.
I'd wait until you find someone special enough to lose your virginity to before you have a baby. Spend your time finding someone who's really great and who you want to combine DNA with and then make your relationship really strong and wonderful so your baby can have a happy family to come in to.
Good luck, sweetness. I feel your pain!
xxIndia
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