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writes:me and my bf are in a relaition ship of 7 months, i'm christian and he's muslim, he always calls me stupid, he says that all his friends tell him that i'm ugly and he deserves better, he controls what i should say and do. he hate all my friends and calles the sluts, and he made me stop talking to all my guy-friends, he tells me that if i said one word to other man even if it's hello he will leave me.i broke up with him before but i got back because i felt guilty, now i'm talking with my old guy-friend behind his back because i'm sick of it and i want him to find out and leave me and end this hell.he wants my attention 24/7 and it getting really annoying.also, before 2 months he started talking about marriage and all, i don't want to marry him because i have no intention of changing to any other religion and i don't want to disappoint my parents.. he felt that i don't want that kind of future with him but i said that by time we will see what happens.after one week he called and said that he has applied to go study in the USA, and got accepted and is going to take the tickets and tear them because he wants to stay with me.i didn't believe him so i started asking questions, i asked him how did you apply ? he said he went to the embassy, got a form that has lot of pages, filled them with information not 100% accurate, and he also said that there was a question about his parents financial states that he answered a ridiculous answer that doesn't have anything to do with the question.so i told him did you have an acceptance of and American college when you applied, he said no.... and here is the thing, you can't get a visa to study in the usa unless you have an acceptance of one of the USA colleges. i also asked him if he scheduled an interview he said no. so i told him to show me the tickets next day. he said i threw them in the trash.i have a Strong feeling that he is lying but i didn't tell him a i acted like i believed him. i just want to get back up with him without feeling guilty and getting back with him again, please helpthnx
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (8 September 2010):
 He's a horrible boyfriend. You have nothing to be guilty about. He won't be able to control you because you are not stupid. You were ready to break up with him but then you heart got soft after he told you he tore the tickets. Girl are you fooled! He would say anything to get you back. Most schools in the USA start in September and applications for early decision start as early as December. For other less competitive schools, applications start between February and April. He won't be able to apply until December for next year. It's too late now. There is no way he got the tickets.
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reader, sarahrose20 +, writes (8 September 2010):
you should leave him dont be scared thats what he wants he might even threaten harm to himself if you but please understand that he is mentally and emotionally abusing you it is not a good relationship and you will be the one whose battered and broken maybe not physically but emotionally
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reader, Oregongrl1  +, writes (8 September 2010):
i read only part of your post! and you being a christain, you should know that aint right! he is an abusive ugly wanna be boy! honey, you make so much sense and you have called everything right on. have you ever seen the Movie w/ sally fields who starred in it it was heavy duty where she married a muslin and he wanted to take her back home to visit his family well that's what he told her he had planned on moving their period. well anyway she found out after they wer'e their he beat her kepted her daughter from her made her dress like muslin women he held her a priosner well she planned her escape slowly and acted like she had excepted everything we wanted from her! it is a true story! well she did escape and got her and her daughter out of their. watch the movie really good. their religion is so different form ours if i wer'e you i would get away from him besides the fact he is very abusive. you need to talk w/ your mother and let her know what's going on because he is not going to give up easily you need your parents to protect you from him i wish you all the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2010): You can do it the nice way, and just tell him that you are not ready for a serious relationship by simply saying "it's not you, it's me". Your still young there is nothing saying that the two of you have to be together.
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