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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I've been sleeping with a close male friend for about 2 years, you could desbribe him as a "shag buddy". I was coming out of a long term relationship when it began, but am now single, and would love to have a go at taking things to another level with my friend. He doesn't want anymore than friends because he's going through a relationship "cold turkey" phase, trying to build on self-esteem, etc. on recommendation of a counsellor. It seems he's always on my mind, and I think the only way of changing that is to break contact with him until I've found another focus, but he is such a good friend and I want to support him through his down times. What to do?! Reply to this Question |
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reader, cd206 + ♥, writes (10 February 2007):
 Women always get more emotionally involved in a sexual relationship than a man. The problem is here that he's already told you he doesn't want a relationship and therefore what you want doesn't really matter in the great scheme of things. I suggest you stop sleeping with him and tell him your feelings are getting too great and ask him to remember you when he's finshed his relationship embargo.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2007): You can't force him into a relationship with you and seeing as he's been adviced by a counsellor to go through a relationship cold turkey phrase it looks like you should finish having him as what you call a shag buddy and get with a bloke who wants a relationship.
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reader, GoldenHands68  +, writes (10 February 2007):
Hi, I have been and am in your situation. Sad thing is my shag buddy and I have just split. Its a very confusing situation. My advice to you is to enjoy your time with him and try not to get your heart to involved for the time. If its ment to be then things will move the way they should. Try to be the supportive friend and hopefully he will see all you have to offer him. Im missing my friend terribly and a broken heart doesnt heal quickly so I hope that it works for you if not just remeber its HIS loss.Take care
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