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*arlamarpal
writes:Hi and thanks for reading this :)The truth is,i have a problem with clothes, shoes and all that stuff.When i see something i like i tend to try it on, but then i dismiss it and then feel awkward.I feel like if i were very, very plain, but i'd like to have all those fashionable, cute clothes and shoes and things almost everyone has. I'd like to dress in a proper , more feminine manner and i have the money to do it...but for some reason i can't, in fact; when i try something new i feel stupid, even if others tell me i look great.Oh, please give me any advice.I don't think i'm ugly...but for some reason (other than money) i can't buy the things i like.
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reader, clairecadaverous  +, writes (1 July 2008):
Hey don't worry about it :) you just need to be yourself and develop your own style. Go shopping, browse, most of all know what suits you and what will make you feel both pretty and confident. Take a friend shopping with you, if you think this will help, for advice and support. That way you won't feel awkward. Try to have fun with fashion- at its best its a very diverse and individual thing and not supposed to be daunting.
Good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2008): It's definitely a confidence issue - I've had it myself. Have you been criticised, subtly or overtly, by your mother or a sister? Have people commented on your clothes before? Or do all the people around you have shopping fixations and distinct ideas about what they like, and you feel quite adrift, afraid your choices won't be "acceptable"? It's hard to break out of patterns you've been set in, but you can start slow. Buy something you see that you like, and ignore all the voices. Wear it the next day without telling anyone you got it, and see their reactions. People are innately complimentary. Feeling good comes from looking good. You'll feel better about new clothes after you've worn them a while!
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reader, XxAnGelXxx +, writes (1 July 2008):
 Could this be a confidence issue? Personally i think that twix came up with a good response, get one of your friends to go out and buy you a new girly cute outfit, give them the money of course, then go on a girls night out, and just see how great you can feel in that new style! It'd boost your confidence, both generally and with trying new things, and then i reckon you'd feel comfortable enough to go on a big shopping spree and totally do out your wardrobe! :) x
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2008): well if you won't buy it why don't you ask someone else to? then you have no say in it. if you buy something new and pretty theres no reason to be ashamed. every1 deserves to be pampered. if you're scared because you think you're being selfish, like i said ask someone else to buy it, then its a gift, and then pay them back so you don't feel guilty about other people buying you stuff. you deserve to have what you want. don't ever think different.
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