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anonymous
writes:I really like a teacher at my school and he dosent actually teach me but we talk and we get on really well. I also think he likes me too. What should i do? Do i tell him or just keep talking to him and act as if i don't?
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reader, british_girl +, writes (14 March 2008):
 its difficult to tell whether or not he likes you - the smiling thing could just be becuase he likes you as a pupil. i am in love with my teacher, but if i see him outside of lessons he doesnt do anything, not even smile, in fact, sometimes his glances at me are almost suspicious, like "what are YOU doing here?", but in lessons hes really nice, he smiles at me, and sometimes i see him looking at me when im at my work. how did you get to know your teacher if he doesnt teach you? did he start talking to you, or you to him?
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reader, nicole5178  +, writes (3 February 2008):
 Woah, yeah it does say that. Sorry, I do that type of thing sometimes.
30 is still young, though. He's at that point in his life when he wants to settle down if he hasn't already. You should get to know him on a more personal level. Find out about why he started teaching, what he was like when he was a teenager, what he wants his future to be like, what's the worst thing that happened to him, the best thing.... Stuff like that. Make sure you tell him a lot about yourself, too. Not too much, but enough. Just get to know him and solidify the friendship. Wait until after you graduate to make a move, though. If you don't, things will be much more complicated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2008): Hi nicole 5178 thanks for ur advice, i think you may have misread my post though i said hes 30 not 20. and its not just smiling its the way he acts around me generally. But thanks for your advice :)
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reader, nicole5178 +, writes (3 February 2008):
If the age gap is that small, and you've almost graduated, I would advise you to keep things at a friend level and then once you're 18, start moving things in a romantic direction. Plenty of students and ex-teachers have had successful, healthy relationships.
Smiling isn't sufficient to say that he's romantically interested. Build your realtionship more. Relationships that last are based on friendship, so make sure you're really good friends before you make a move. Is he involved with someone else already? And are you sure he's only 20?... that's a little young to be teaching.
...Hope that helped you. Good luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2008): Well i'm nearly 17 and he's like 30 and i leave the school in a couple of weeks. Basically we talk loads but it's usually just random stuff but he seems intrested in everything i say. Sometimes he used to seem a bit nervous around me but now he seems ok and treats me like a friend. Also he won't really talk to me when my friends or other students are around.and his face lights up when he sees me and hes always smiling at me. He could just be being friendly but i don't know. thanks for the advice so far its really appreciated. sorry its so long
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reader, maddierose  +, writes (1 February 2008):
 "oh no........... dont go there." does not count as sufficiant advice.If you are having doubts about telling him then I suggest you hold off for now. If you ever get to a point where you are absalutely certain that you want to tell him, then tell him. If you never get that point, then you obviously wern't meant to tell him.How does he behave around you to make you think he may like you back?good luck
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (1 February 2008):
 Just keep him on a friendship level and enjoy his friendship.Be happy and try not to change the relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2008): How old are you and how old is your teacher? It is not good for a teacher to be interested in a student in that way. It is even illegal if you are under 18 years old. He can get into a lot of trouble if you are underage. You should not get involve with him in a romantic way even if you like. Like you said its a crush, you don't want to mess up to lives. If he comes on to you make sure to tell your parents and the principal, because that is just wrong.
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reader, speedcat +, writes (31 January 2008):
oh no........... dont go there.
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