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writes:I really like a teacher at my school and he dosent actually teach me but we talk and we get on really well. I also think he likes me too. What should i do? Do i tell him or just keep talking to him and act as if i don't?
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reader, Noonespecialhaha +, writes (17 April 2013):
Omg I can totally relate, there is a teacher in my school who came on a trip abroad to Spain and I went on it to and he was always talking to me, he's reallyyy hot and I have a huge crush on him! He always looks at me in school but trust me! Don't get involved, I avoid him so that I dot get distracted, you don't want him to go to jail? Do you? So don't do anything you will regret, plus after all, you will be leaving school soon and there will be a lot more guys out there but say you got lucky and you had that relationship you want with your teacher then when your like 30 he will be like 50 :/ ew..
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reader, Xoxogurl  +, writes (3 September 2012):
heeyya...even i am going through this now..it sorta hard because i like him too and i think he does too..well..i think you should stop because...well..he'll be in jail and two..because he is too oldhope you get over this soonxoxo
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reader, jenniferbev  +, writes (16 April 2011):
Heeyy!I know what your going through. Im only 15 but i have a massive crush on one of my teachers. You know what its like- he's tall, hansome, smart, funny and an overall great guy. He's been at my school for 2 years and i only had him at the beginning of this year before he had to trade our class with another teacher due to a time table issue. He always smiles at me and i feel that he hold his gaze when i look at him. He laughs at jokes i make in class and always listens to what i say. im unsure if he knows that i like him but part of me wants him to know because i dream about us being in a relationship. I know it could get him fired and get me in trouble to but he's just so amazing. I compare him to guys my age but he's just so much better cause ive always had a thing for guys alot older than me. I think both you and me just need to get a break from our teachers and go and find someone our own age during the summer or something. keep us imformed!!good luck!:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2010): Hun, this happened to me a while ago. Heres my two cents worth. Stop. Its not love or a crush, I think its more like admiration ok?? You WILL get past this, just promise me and every reader that you will NOT take this any further, ok?
you guys can remain friends, i'm great mates with heaps of my teachers,
good luck
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reader, MidnightSky +, writes (9 May 2009):
 hey there :)
i love my teacher, well technically he isn't my teacher like yours lol, but he teaches guitar on a wednesday after school so i go along lol, and yep, we get on :) and i think he knows i like him lol! :P
however he might just like you as a pupil and a friend, so enjoy the friendship! :D x
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reader, british_girl +, writes (14 March 2008):
 its difficult to tell whether or not he likes you - the smiling thing could just be becuase he likes you as a pupil. i am in love with my teacher, but if i see him outside of lessons he doesnt do anything, not even smile, in fact, sometimes his glances at me are almost suspicious, like "what are YOU doing here?", but in lessons hes really nice, he smiles at me, and sometimes i see him looking at me when im at my work. how did you get to know your teacher if he doesnt teach you? did he start talking to you, or you to him?
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reader, nicole5178  +, writes (3 February 2008):
 Woah, yeah it does say that. Sorry, I do that type of thing sometimes.
30 is still young, though. He's at that point in his life when he wants to settle down if he hasn't already. You should get to know him on a more personal level. Find out about why he started teaching, what he was like when he was a teenager, what he wants his future to be like, what's the worst thing that happened to him, the best thing.... Stuff like that. Make sure you tell him a lot about yourself, too. Not too much, but enough. Just get to know him and solidify the friendship. Wait until after you graduate to make a move, though. If you don't, things will be much more complicated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2008): Hi nicole 5178 thanks for ur advice, i think you may have misread my post though i said hes 30 not 20. and its not just smiling its the way he acts around me generally. But thanks for your advice :)
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reader, nicole5178 +, writes (3 February 2008):
If the age gap is that small, and you've almost graduated, I would advise you to keep things at a friend level and then once you're 18, start moving things in a romantic direction. Plenty of students and ex-teachers have had successful, healthy relationships.
Smiling isn't sufficient to say that he's romantically interested. Build your realtionship more. Relationships that last are based on friendship, so make sure you're really good friends before you make a move. Is he involved with someone else already? And are you sure he's only 20?... that's a little young to be teaching.
...Hope that helped you. Good luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2008): Well i'm nearly 17 and he's like 30 and i leave the school in a couple of weeks. Basically we talk loads but it's usually just random stuff but he seems intrested in everything i say. Sometimes he used to seem a bit nervous around me but now he seems ok and treats me like a friend. Also he won't really talk to me when my friends or other students are around.and his face lights up when he sees me and hes always smiling at me. He could just be being friendly but i don't know. thanks for the advice so far its really appreciated. sorry its so long
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (1 February 2008):
 Just keep him on a friendship level and enjoy his friendship.Be happy and try not to change the relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2008): How old are you and how old is your teacher? It is not good for a teacher to be interested in a student in that way. It is even illegal if you are under 18 years old. He can get into a lot of trouble if you are underage. You should not get involve with him in a romantic way even if you like. Like you said its a crush, you don't want to mess up to lives. If he comes on to you make sure to tell your parents and the principal, because that is just wrong.
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reader, speedcat +, writes (31 January 2008):
oh no........... dont go there.
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