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writes:How do I make a move on a girl I like???I have a fear of rejection. In the past few months, some mutual female friends have told me there is a girl who fights over me with another girl. They've also tried to get me to go to some sort of formal with her and recently, the mutual friends told me she was really excited when I added her on myspace. They have also told me she really likes me. Only thing is I'm hopelessly shy and I'm pretty sure she is too. I really want to just end up maybe at the same party as her so I can just talk to her but on the two very rare occasions, I've been too afraid to. Now I don;t know how I am going to make the first move. Thanx
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2008): As a former "shy guy", I have to tell you that sometimes you have to bite the bullet and take a risk. Yeah, things could go either way, but at the same time, this sounds like you have all the dominos set up -- all you need to do is push the first one and it will all work out in your favor.
Also, in general, you definitely need to work on your confidence. I'm a lot older than you and this haunted me for a long time. Sometimes you need to push yourself out the front door and go socialize. Yes, there's the chance of being embarrassed and/or hurt, but that's also life. It's what's going to help you toughen up your skin. At the very least, ask yourself why you feel so shy. A therapist could help you sort that out... but trust me, don't carry this into your 30's!
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reader, cute angel  +, writes (30 April 2008):
 wow hun u are in good situation here..u know that a girl totally likes u..y are u not making a step then..what fear of rejection are u talkin about when u totally know that she has fallen head over heels for u..be bold u dont need a party or some occasion to talk to her..talk to her on myspace facebook or msn or whatever u are using..flirt with her yo!!!show her u r the man!!!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (30 April 2008):
Take a deep breath, walk over to her and ask her if she wants to go on a date with you.
Suggest the cinema and a film you want to see.
It doesn't sound like she would say no so you just have to take the risk.
The cinema is a good first date as you don't have to talk to each other much during the film and it gives you something to talk about afterwards.
Good Luck!! xx
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