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writes:Hi. Thanks for Helping me.Anyways, I have a dilemma. There is a school police officer at school and he seems to like me. I have noticed him glancing at me. When we are outside and I'm with my friends, he goes and stands around the area where we are at. He also seems to stare at me and also gives those glances at me. There has been no contact between us, except once, but it was only verbal contact about school and nothing more. I notice him staring at me and I look back at him and look away. When I need to go somewhere at school and he is on duty in the hallways he always stands taller and makes everyone around him look really short. Since I'm short, I admire tall people. That only contributes to the problem for my feelings towards him. Help!! I think I have a crush on him. But I can't tell anyone, not even my sister. Not even my friends as well. And forget telling my parents. I think there is some sort of attraction between this police officer and I.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk. I understand. Thanks anyways.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question @Tisha-1
Thanks :)
For being helpful and not judging just by the question. Thanks for looking back at my question.
Thanks for your advice :)
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (16 May 2012):
 Good luck with figuring it out! I'm sure it will all make sense in a year or two! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question@Tisha-1
Thanks a lot! Your comments make me feel better :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionone more thing!!
from my group im the second tallest but look older in looks with sharper features and stuff. so yeah...
and the rest of my friends aren't that older looking from the face and stuff.
besides.. there is this like "big" girl who always tags along with my friends.. so..?? yeah.
so i look and act MORE mature than them. you should see how they behave..
hope you understand.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok. well they don't like to be near around police or securities from the school so i go along with them, but the cop just moves around to where we are located (thats what i have noticed)and we are not trouble makers. 2 of us are female school athletes and the rest are band geeks.
and my friends try to move away so there we all go again, besides, my friends probably would think im crazy if i told them. you get me??
*besides, this guy doesn't have marriage ring, so he doesn't have to worry about being unfaithful, you know where im getting at?
thanks for the advice :)
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (16 May 2012):
You mean you never said to any of them "isn't that officer kinda cute?" Just to make sure he's not making the same kind of eyes at them? Chances are he's checking them out too....
I'll bet if you ask them tomorrow, someone will share a similar story. I think you can't ask anyone else because that will mean you find out the truth and you don't want to find out your crush has a propensity to ogle teenage girls.
Sorry, but I don't see much of anything going on here. It's fun to have crushes and everything, but that's pretty much the extent of the reality of the situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionmy friends are my age, but i don't think i can trust them with this.
not to be mean or anything but they act like SO Immature!!
Im serious, and they act like that in front of everyone so its embarrassing when people give me the looks.
So i can't tell them because they would laugh at me for life!
They wouldn't understand.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, I don't know??
I was just looking for people's opinions on this particular question of my life..
Thanks
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (16 May 2012):
Why can't you tell your best friends? The thing about best friends is that you can tell them your deepest darkest most wicked secrets and they will tell you theirs. This secret sounds fairly common, nothing so risqué or weird unless you have something else to tell us?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionA female reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2012)
To this person up here ^^^ :
Thanks for your help.
However, this police guy doesn't have a wedding band/ or a marriage ring... so i don't know..
But thanks for anyone who answered though, I don't mean to be rude and I do take your answers into consideration.
Thanks :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2012): I want to say first that some of the people replying to this post have been pretty harsh. I'm not really sure why...but whatever.
I'll say first, I'm a mom of a 13 year old, and coincidentally a wife to a cop lol. So, maybe I can give you some insight perhaps.
I know from being with my daughter, who is tall and already developed. A great number of men, young and older glance her way as we walk around places, because she looks 16. She is flattered and sometimes shy from the attention. I know from our talks, she goes through a variety of feelings when a boy from her school likes her. I'm sure reader you must be going through similar experiences with boys.
So, personally I think it's very natural, how you're feeling towards this man, and he too may be feeling drawn to you. Attraction/chemistry can happen at any age and any place. It's a realm we don't have complete control over, it just happens. However, what we do have control over, is how we respond to these kind of situations.
I'm going to assume, in a hopeful way, that this cop is single, and not behaving with unfaithful thoughts toward you. If he's not, and you know he's not single, I would hope you are wise enough to not pursue a married man. Because that means he is not a good man. Though I am not passing judgement on you either way.
However, even if he is single, there are still some complications with this relationship. First, he's an adult, and you are not, so this poses a legal issue. Second, (related to the first) he is in law enforcement...and him pursuing you, under the legal age, he would lose his career, and possibly never be able to work in law enforcement again. Most govt. agencies are pretty strict on this subject.
Third, and lastly, I'm not sure if you are already sexually active, but, it's without a doubt, he is...and in a completely different stage of his romantic life than you are. Which trust me, from personal experience, it's not a world you really want to get tangled up in.
I won't make light of your feelings as merely a crush. Since I met my husband at 17 and married him a year later. The two of you have some sort of connection, and you must feel frustrated, even a little love sick over the fact you cannot act on it. Trust me though, just wait. If its real, it will happen when it's the right (appropriate) time.
Also, I will tell you, it's hard enough to be in a relationship with a cop at age 35, I can't imagine being 15 or even 18 dealing with the same sort of stress lol.
Good luck :)
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (15 May 2012):
 Mature 15 year old, huh? Then why do you even ask for advice if you have it all figured out? Sure we don't know what it feels like, you're the only one that's a "mature" 15 year old. All the best.
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reader, Deagan +, writes (15 May 2012):
 You should listen to IAmHereToHelpYou, she is right.
Look, it's very common for girls to develop crushes on teachers, or in your case, the police officer. I had a HUGE crush on my gym teacher at the time, but I knew better than to think it was more than a crush.
Let me ask you this.
Why would you think he is interested in you, does he even know your name? Have you two even talked for more than 20 minutes? How could you be "feeling something" when you don't even know anything about this person? Why would he be interested in a teenager who can't even drive yet? Don't you think he would want to date someone his age, who has a career, who has similar interests as him, someone who is his age he can grab drinks with and have sex with and it not be weird or illegal?
It's a crush. Pretty soon you'll get over it and laugh it off.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI am here to help you -- you are not helping at all.
This is difficult because I feel something. Like I have never felt something like this before, you know.
And please, I am 15 years old mature and an Athlete in school.
I am not 13 years old!
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (14 May 2012):
 Dude hes at best sir rent a cop is maybe flirting. maybe and thats a stretch yo. Attraction is totally different. It can be initiated with eye contact but its avout personality not stares n glances n hallway whispers.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (14 May 2012):
 iAmHereToHelpYou is right.
A crush is nice and totally normal, but even a crush needs to have both feet planted in reality.
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reader, Anonymous 123 +, writes (14 May 2012):
Enjoy your crush whilst it lasts. At 13 I had the weirdest crushes too and now that I look back upon them, they always bring a smile to my face! Don't ever act upon your crush, he's a grown man and you are still very young and nothing can and should happen. Even if the wildest scenario in your head thinks it can, it can have him fired from his job and you in big trouble. Certainly not worth it, is it?
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