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writes:Okay so ever since I was younger I've been attracted to both boys and girls. So lately I've been hanging out with my friend who is Bi and I have a crush on her.The problem is I haven't came out yet about being bi. And a few days ago somebody asked me if I'm bi too because she's out, I didn't answer and she aswered for me and said no. So i didnt say anyting about it then today she told me another one of our friends was bi. Then she was like 'why am i telling you this your not bi' I didn't answer I just said 'oh' Then she asks' am i' I wasn't sure what to say so I just said no.So my question is can she tell that I'm bi? Also I feel bad about lying to her, should i tell her the truth? I'm so confused because I like her but I'm not ready to come out yet...What to do?
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reader, sarah45  +, writes (2 December 2009):
Don't worry. I am bisexual too and have feelings for another girl. The only difference is that she is straight and know she can never ever find out. Talk to someone about it and they can guide you to know what to do and how to do it. Hope my advice helped atleast a little bit.
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reader, aim  +, writes (15 December 2007):
 Hey. haha, i agree with flynn. Hmmm. BUT i guess 'coming out' as bi is still 'coming out'. i mean, its just that being a bi girl is more accepted than just lesb. Thus, i think the stress or pressure shouldnt be that much to handle compared to being gay. I find it funny that indeed, as flynn said about bi women - "most guys love this sort of thing." and i believe that this is true for the whole world. Weirdly, the world does not 'love' bi guys. I am right, right? haha. ;) I wonder...back to your problem. If you really like this girl and you believe it is worth the risk and all, then go ahead, tell her that. you just hafta tell her that you are still have not come out yet to most of the people. hope i helped. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2007): Look.You don't 'COME OUT' if you're bi.Because you aren't actually gay. You just happen to bat for both teams.And believe me, most guys love this sort of thing.But tell only those you trust, and if you are really serious, this girl. Make sure they know you will personally murder them if they breathe a word of it to anyone until you and you alone are ready to spread the love.Flynn 24
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