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writes:okaywell i have been with my boyfriend for 7 months, and i love him, but ive known this other guy for 5 years, and im falling for him. i broke up with my boyfriend once because of it, but i guess i was scared of being alone so i asked him back out, now i think the other guy has feelings for me, and i dont want to hurt my boyfriend, but there are things this other guy has that my boyfriend doesnt witch makes it harder for me. Someone please help me, i cant stop crying over it, i mean im only 17 and relationships will come and go, but my boyfriend is my first real relationship, what should i do??Thanks abby
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reader, lillybowhowser +, writes (15 February 2011):
Its ok i have had a boyfriend for almost a year now and im falling for my ex to. just dont worry about it try to stay calm be with who you love them most is what i was told...
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2010): The same thing is happening to me and the other boy really loves me:( i cant help my feeling for him and i really dont no wat to do. I really do not wanna hurt my boyfriend:( i told my boyfriend i would never dump him:(
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reader, spicy  +, writes (30 December 2009):
i have a boyfriend for 9 months but in love with this guy i met in a group thing i love this new guy his cute and nice and asked me to be his girlfriend i said i do not know cause i loved both off them
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2009): Ii im 16 and i think im in the same situation as you are,so im not much help im just wondering whether anybody else can help?hes my first real boyfriend and at first things were really complicated for me as i lost my bestfriend by choosing this guy but since then i was sure i made the right decision but now, well ive met another guy who i really like but he is nearly 3 years older and he really likes me, yet i still think i like or maybe love my boyfriend and now im confused about what to do? i either leave my boyfriend and go out with a guy who i know oki but we would have to date in secret as neither of our parents would allow it or i stay with my boyfriend and ignore the feelings i havehelp please i feel so stupid to have got into this position and i havent got a clue how to get out of it :S thanks
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reader, twilightfangirl +, writes (20 February 2009):
I am dealing with same thing u r. I hav a boyfriend but I like this other guy and I think he likes me but im not sure. What u need 2 do is think about them both. Who do u feel most comfortable around? Who makes u feel most special? The thing that is probably bugging u the most is the same thing that is bugging me. U don't want 2 hurt ur boyfriend when u break up with him. Think about who treats u best?
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reader, sydney  +, writes (8 July 2008):
just a short thought from expeirence when your torn between two and you confused that you love one or maybe love the other , you may have to face that you truely love neither, for i do truley believe that when real love hits you are no longer interested in anyone else, but may be i am old fashioned.. i agree totally with the other comment you cannot stay with someone because you feel sorry for , you'll only end up regretting and feeling like you lost out and you want more all thet time and in the end it hurts more.. you know i have been in this situation and you do weigh up each persons attributes and you will always like something in one and something else you'll equally love in the other. and thinking to much can drive you mad, you are young with a whole life ahead of you,, you need to take your time and think things through you know the answer yourself deep down, we all have the inner voices and we seldom listen to what they tell us, what ever you decide to do i wish you well,, be honest with yourself and your boyfriend that your with, one thing to remember is that if you do finsish with the boy you with and try with the new guy and it does not work out, i agree bouncing back to the first one is not the answer,good luck and i do wish you wellxx
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reader, ChiRaven +, writes (7 July 2008):
 There's an old saying about a bird in the hand being worth two in the bush. You're not entirely sure yet if this new guy is really interested in it, but you're thinking of giving up a relationship you already have for a CHANCE that there might be a new one that might be better and offer more.
Well, if you're a gambler, that's a situation just made for you.
Choosing between the two of them is going to be tough, but since you're already regretting things I'd say you're probably safer staying with the guy you've got and letting the new guy pass by. Either way, you give up something, but what you give up by staying is not as tangible as what you give up by going for this new guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2008): i think the best thing you can do is to be honest with yourself and your boyfriend or someone could get hurt. it's not really worth risking his feelings over your not wanting to be alone. as for the other guy, find out for certain how he feels about you so you know where you stand. don't feel too bad if he doesn't though coz as you said your only 17, this won't be the first time you fall in love.
hope i was of some help :D
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reader, M][KE  +, writes (7 July 2008):
Hey, sorry to hear about your situation...
If you think in perspective, it sounds like you wont be with your boyfriend forever. If you have feelings for another guy and can see it going somewhere then be fair to your boyfriend. Have a chat with him and don't lead him on, especially if he really likes you.
However reading your post it seems like you have all-ready made your mind up. Your right, relationships do come and go and usually end in hurt, it's unavoidable. Sometimes doing the right choice can be the hardest, but that's life.
If you end up with this guy you like, but it abruptly ends. Don't go back to your old boyfriend... let each of you move on.
I hope this helps putting things in perspective for you and hope you feel better. Always tell us how it goes people like to know…
Best wishes M][KE
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reader, Brianna +, writes (7 July 2008):
WoW Hi I am 18 and i am in a similar situation only my problem is i dont think my BF loves me anymore... But on to your question...thats a hard one to answer...try and make a list actually write and list pros and cons of being with each person. look into your future and see if their future plans match up with yours or even come close because you dont want to end up with the wrong one in 10 years...how does this other guy feel? do you just think he likes you? And how does your boyfriend feel about you does he want a future with you?
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