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writes:this may sound stupid to some of you. but i cant help how i feel. and i dont even know why im feeling like this. im 17 and my boyfriend of a year is 23. he is awsome!i love him to bits.when we first got together, he explained that when he was in a relationship at 18, his girlfriend at the time discovered she was pregnant and that they decided to keep it. he explained that they were both really excited and they spent loads of baby clothes etc, and then at 3 months they both lost the baby. its a horrible thing to go through!,and i understand that it was the past. but he sometimes brings it up, and it actually makes my blood boil!! i hate knowing the fact he was going to have a baby with his x-girlfriend.and to make me feel even worse, i found out that i was pregnant a couple of months ago, and when i expected him to be supportive of whatever my choice was. he thought abortion was the right choice. so i went along with it. its been about 6 months since the abortion now, and i feel the need to talk about it.but he doesnt want to know. he always goes on about him and his x-girlfriends baby. but never about us, and about what we have gone through. it makes me feel really angry! i cant even explain why. a small part of me even wanted that baby. its as if he doesnt care at all. i almost feel left out? if that makes sense.is it normal for me to feel like this?
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reader, Ravenxx91 + ♥, writes (28 October 2009):
 you feelings are normal but you need to talk to him and tell him how you are feeling. If he was so saddened by the loss of the ex's baby then why suggest abortion.. I dont get that part.Just tell him that... you need to talk to him x
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reader, Ginalolabridga + ♥, writes (27 October 2009):
 I think under the circumstances yes your feeling things that are caused by other people's behaviour, to be honest i think he has been totally heartless when it came to your decision and that is not helping you to heal from this.
I also think it was the best thing for you cause he has shown his true colours here by his behaviour and attitude and i shudder to think what he would be like with a baby?
I would turn to my family and friends for support at this time cause he seems useless at even given you that.
Gina
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reader, AskLadyJuJu  + ♥, writes (27 October 2009):
 yes i think its totally normal..i would feel the same way. he might have felt like that as far as abortion because maybe he wasnt ready. Was he with his ex longer? maybe he was ready with her at the time because he was with her longer? or maybe your just 17 and hes afraid? you never know what he can be thinking in his head but the best way to solve this is to talk to him and tell him how you feel about it and that it bothers you that he has to mention her and the baby every time. talk to him to see where it goes ...goodluck
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