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writes:Okay, so. I've been in a long-distance relationship for a little over a year and I adore my boyfriend. Because of circumstances, we haven't met in person for a couple of years (since before we were together) and it's really not feasible that we could see each other right now, but we're both devoted to making the long-distance thing work. Emails, letters, Skype, everything.One thing my boyfriend really likes to do is talk dirty over IM. We started doing this maybe a month ago. I went along with it at first because I knew he would enjoy it, even though I find it pretty awkward, since I’m a virgin and never even been kissed – what am I supposed to say? (I’m almost 19, btw. He’s a little older.) Now he wants to talk dirty all the time, and he especially loves it when I talk dirty to him.The more we do it, the more I hate it. I feel awkward and cheap, don’t like explicit words and would much rather save this kind of thing for in person. He’s started sending me explicit photos now too (but he isn’t asking me to send him explicit photos back), and I hate those too, I love him but I didn’t want to see those parts of him yet.The thing is, he has no idea I feel this way. Before he sends me an explicit pic, he asks me if it’s ok, and if I want to see. I tell him that I enjoy the pictures, and the talking, and everything, because I know that he really likes it and I really don’t want to hurt his feelings now by telling him I hate it. When we started doing it, I didn't know how much I would come to dislike it. It’s kind of a no-win situation here because if he knew how I feel, I know he would feel really bad that I’ve been going along with it for him, and quite possibly be mad at me for not being up-front with him in the first place. Last night, he wanted me to talk dirty to him and I all of a sudden could not handle it anymore, couldn’t do it, and now I think he’s mad at me because he knows something is wrong and I’m not telling him what. I really don’t know what to do, I need advice… :(
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (28 August 2011):
 he's got no respect for you he just sees you as a sex object and your messages and calls are giving him masturbation material. don't do any thing you are not comfortable with. your a virgin - an innocent girl and he is a horn-dog.
tell him you don't like it and you don't wanna do it anymore - but then expect him to go looking for someone who will do what he wants
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