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writes: My brother has a girlfriend who is absolutely vile!!! she is disrespectful , ungrateful and a total bitch and has been since day one. I've seen the way she is with him, they live together now and says to him 'what are we having for dinner' and he just does what she says and he even does the cleaning and the ironing! he has turned into a complete pussy! I came out one night to see him in a play and took my friends with me and she was so rude to all of us, she turned her nose up when we tried to make conversation and walked off !! how rude and ungrateful when we were trying to include her and be friendly.. i told him after the play what she was being like and he couldnt believe it but i saw him tell her , and he brought her over to introduce her again to my friends but nothing changed she just stood there for my brothers sake and didnt say anything, just nodded her head. When i left i said bye and she ignored me! what a freak.I dont want my brother to be with this girl she is so disrespectful and horrible, is there anythign i can do to make him realise he needs to dump her!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2006): I'm in the same situation - my brothers girlfriend is an evil bitch, I've put up with her for about 4 years making allowances for her rude & selfish behaviour and ignoring the way she is so disrepectful, especially to him. But she's a sneaky scheming cow and makes sure comments are made when other people ie my parents! dont hear her so if I retaliate I look nasty and she loves that. She ruined another familly holiday this year and is still acting innocent and it makes me so mad! My brother did used to stick up for himself but he now lets her tell him what to do, and she stops him going out and seeing his friends all the time. I've also seen her hit him. She's disgusting. He used to talk of getting rid but he now seems to have resigned himself to the fact that he's with her - he's only 22 and could do so much better. Me and my husband have given up on her - she's incapable of being nice and is never sorry for anything she does so we now keep away. My brother is sticking up for her and is angry with me because we dont like her, none of his friends do either and says he's not speaking to me until I like her. I'm going to wait until he comes to his senses and just keep away - she'll never change.She's been trying to bribe me into likeing her / pretending because 'dont I want to see her and craigs children and be at their wedding' She's shown her true colours to a few people so it'll only be a matter of time before everyone realises what she is, I can wait! grrrr
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2006):
At some family gathering you video tape the whole thing. Once he see her in action on the tape he'll realize what a pill she is.
You can do this at as many Holidays as are necessary until he sees through her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for all your advice it was excellent. pica i am very pleasant only i get very dramatic in my problems and the way i write ! hhaha i can see that it may look like im being judgemental but ihave tried with her and i dont condone behaviour where someone blatantly ignores u infront of ur friends! now thats embarrassing! Thanks anyway guys xxxx
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reader, pica +, writes (7 November 2006):
Grow up and let him make his own decisions? You don't sound too pleasant yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2006): Now, now! She sounds quite nasty from your description, but you are being very judgmental! If she senses (and how could she not?) your feelings toward her, its hardly going to bring out her good qualities! I'm not excusing her rudeness, mind.
Your brother evidently sees a lot that he likes in her, or he would never have made the decision to date her, let alone live with her. Perhaps he knows how she is, but it doesn't bother him. Don't try to persuade him to break up with her. He won't thank you for it, and in fact might very well blame you if things do end between him and her. You don't want that.
Instead, be at least courteous toward her next time you meet. If you know of something she especially likes - such as going bowling, for instance, maybe you could show an interest. She may very well be cool and suspicious, given what's already going on between you, but hopefully, if you continue to be pleasant and friendly she will eventually no longer see the need to be defensive and unpleasant, and you both might see one another in a very different light.
That's my 2 cents!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI do understand what you are saying but i DO keep my distance and thats the whole point!! he's my brother why should I HAVE to cuz of her!!! she is the bitch that is removing me away from my own flesh and blood!! now help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2006): Just keep your distance and be there for your brother if this relationship does break up. They could stay together for the rest of their lives, in which case, just agree to disagree and be as pleasant as you possible can in her presence so that you cannot be blamed for being the rude one. It's his life and you wouldn't want him interferring in yours in the future. Try and take a more laid back approach. Take Care.
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reader, Jovial  + ♥, writes (7 November 2006):
 hi there,
i dont think u need to do anything about it, ur brother will not dump her because u said so, he wants her in his life and u need to respect his choice and be careful if u keep nagging u might loose him to her for good. he will see all ur warnings as jealousy or hatred towards his girlfriend let him see her for what or who she is then he will judge for himself, ever wondered why good women end up with bad men? even good men end up with bad women as well and it is the reality in relationship u might find that the freak personality u see is what turns him on, u will be surprised. i say just be there for ur brother and let him learn from his mistakes. u can help a person choose the best career but not a partner. hope this helps
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