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I hate French Kissing but my boyfriend tries to choke me with his tongue!

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Question - (11 December 2008) 5 Answers - (Newest, 11 June 2010)
A female United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I don't like French (or 'tongue') kissing. I am almost 30 years old and have never liked it. I don't like wet sloppy kisses and on top of that I have a very small mouth. My boyfriend insists on ramming his tongue into my mouth every time we kiss for more than 3 seconds! I do nothing to encourage this, in fact I even keep my lips closed when I can tell he's getting ready to do it. But he forces his tongue between my lips anyway and shoves his whole tongue in and out of my mouth so fast I feel like gagging. I told him I hate it and he just says he can't help it. For me it's turned in to an instant mood killer.

Other than getting a muzzle for him, what can I do?


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A female reader, wearywife United States +, writes (11 June 2010):

i am the same way! i hate french kissing! it doesnt turn me on it actually turns me off and i really dont know why. its just really uncomfortable and i feel almost sufficated and i dont want anyone that close to my face! its a matter of opinion. some people like oral while others dont same with kissing.

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A female reader, Anonny United Kingdom +, writes (11 December 2008):

Hi - I'm with a guy who doesn't really french kiss - but I wish he would and wonder just if he doesn't enjoy it like yourself or maybe doesn't know how to!

Like the others say - if you both read up on how to do it properly you may enjoy it! - It can be very sensual if done properly!! - Good luck!

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A female reader, -NothingLasts4ever- United Kingdom +, writes (11 December 2008):

-NothingLasts4ever- agony auntI agree with the person below. Why not show him how to french kiss properly, then maybe you'll learn to enjoy it as well.


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A female reader, samsmommy United States +, writes (11 December 2008):

samsmommy agony auntMaybe you wouldn't mind as much if he didn't just "ram his toungue into your mouth" as you put it. I don't think anyone would enjoy that. Idk of any other advice to give you except, he kind of sounds like he doesn't know how to kiss you in a way that turns you on, not off. I would find a page on the internet on how to french kiss and show him lol. You can google anything.

Hope I helped at least a little bit :)

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A male reader, Danielepew Mexico +, writes (11 December 2008):

Danielepew agony auntI'm sure he enjoys it. It's difficult for him not to want to do it, but it doesn't "just happen". It will continue to happen for as long as he gets it. Maybe you can refuse to kiss him if he will do his French kissing again?

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