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writes:Met a guy last year on holiday and he was quite possesive of me at first. then he seemed to want me to chase him, stupidly i did and he backed of. I stopped and just left him alone, didnt bother to contact him. I started to move on with my life and met someone else who wants me to move to another area and live there with them, this person really adores me and puts effort into the relationship. Then out of the blue the other makes contact and i told him i am involved with someone else who cares for me. He then tells me that he wanted to get in touch but thought i would be expecting him to and has had dreams about me. Totally dont understand that! But also tells me he doesnt want the responsibility of a relationship. So i say thats fine ok and then he asks me to continue writing to him and stay in touch. Why is he doing this now, what does he want? I has started to move on and now hes disrupted me again. Ive ignored him since he told me to write to him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2010): keep ignoring him.
he doesn't know what he wants. he liked you or thought he could gain something from you, but can't commit to you. you are probably one of a few girls he can't commit to.
some people like to 'keep in touch' and store past loves in their lives like squirrels store nuts in their cheeks for later consumption. they think they might get something out of it some day and don't let go and find something new. so, he had a dream? yeah, there are people out there who feel like dreams are telling them something deeper than what is reality. he maybe felt a connection to you but isn't ready for it, is too immature for it...maybe it was just your night to pop up in his dreams and he's lonely, so he flies with the idea it means something more. i've been in exactly (almost to the word) situation on both sides of this coin. all i can say is that if at least one person is DONE, then it's done. that's it. he isn't thinking about how you wanted to move on, because he had a 'special' dream of his, but that's just his own self-centered wishful thinking.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2010): It would seem that he is contacting you when he has no other options. In other words couldn't get that chic.. so i will fall back you this one. Keep ignoring him. Hes told you he does not want the responsibility of a relationship so .. give him that kind of relationship.. one where there is no, contact , no love, no risk and no responsibility. Keep being smart and go for the one who wants you back. Dont settle!
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