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writes:Hey everyone,I'm 24 years old. As silly as this sounds my relatives(not immediate family) won't let me forget something I did!So my friends and I were partying at a club and they handed me one shot of tequila, here's the thing I have never consumed alcohol, so just one shot of tequila I was drunk and started puking and after this I don't drink..sometimes if I go out with my girlfriends I drink one glass of beer and I'm saying rarely like once in year or something..Now my relatives think I'm drunk and they keep telling my family that I got drunk etc etc it hurts me, cuz even though people around me drink I never do it, it hurts to hear people talk about me like that when they don't even know me! its easy to comment, I don't want to defend myself cuz I haven't done anything wrong but it bothers me!has anyone faced such jealousy, resentment issues with relatives?
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reader, fishdish  +, writes (3 February 2013):
 They're bored with their own lives so they have to fabricate drama to keep things interesting. It's like middle school. Stick it out for a couple more family functions and then say, you can go in with, "nothing like beating a dead horse, huh?"
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (3 February 2013):
 Eh don't sweat it. If getting drunk is not your "normal" state let them wag their tongues, because in the end... they will look stupid, people who knows you, know you aren't a drunk.. Screw those people.. even if you are related to em!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2013): I have faced this kind of feeling many times, so I understand, it's not right I know. You must tell them what happened, tell them that it was a one off thing and that it will never happen again (how did your relatives find out???). Besides your reletives (no offence) seem arrogent to say such things, besides, I'm sure some of these people have been drunk more than once. You must remeber though, people will always judge you, no matter what, and there's nothing you can do about that, you must forget, and move on. Just so long as you know yourself then that's all there is to it. People will always say horrible, and hurtful things that arn't true. (I'm curently trying to deal with a rumor about me likeing a teacher, and doing disgusting things), it's getting out of hand with me though, So, you got drunk, just once, most people will expierence being drunk at some point in your life, have no shame. Stay strong xxx Anonymous xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2013): Yes I have and continue to deal with such jealousy and resentment from my siblings, they say much worse than that, especially their spouses who spread nasty rumours that I sleep around (which I have never done, I don't believe in casual sex myself) but to hear them talk, you would think that I do. One has even cost me my job when he started a relationship with a girl at my work and she spread nasty vicious rumours about me at work. The fact is there is nothing you can do, they want to believe that because it makes them feel better by putting you down. It does hurt and makes you feel like crap. You know the truth, when they say this rubbish I just look at them and laugh and think to myself how pathetic are you? They want to feel like they are better than you, but they are not, hold your head up high and trust that the one's who truly know and love you will not believe them, just like my parents did not believe them. Good Luck
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reader, Hennessy1989  +, writes (3 February 2013):
 I rarely drink, unfortunately I seem to save my drunkest moments for the biggest family events haha, luckily for me while my family take delight in reminding me of past drunk moments, it is all light hearted banter, don't let this stuff get to you, just laugh it off and eventually the comments will die down. And also remember everyone has been drunk at some point, it's not a crime.
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