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*ichelle411
writes:So me n my bf have been together 4 yrs and sometimes we both go out seperately with friends. We r pretty laid back about it but it seems that I get really jelous over him going out and then I text him and feel like I'm ruining his night out w/friends.is that normal to feel left out b/c I don't go out w/them? And then I invite him out w/me n my friends and he never goes and I think he's out w/other girls for some reason but he never gives me reason to think that. I don't like his friends wife that's why I don't go with him but I just feel like I'm being too jelous or something??? I don't even know how I feel b/c I go out as well sometimes and he never says this stuff to me HELP
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (30 September 2012):
You need to have a sit down and think about what may be causing this. As AuntyEm has said, there's clearly something in your past that has caused you to feel anxious/jealous when you're not with him, and that clearly needs to be addressed because sooner or later, this will spill over and your boyfriend might not be so understanding.
Also, fro your own point of view, it would do you good to find out why you feel this way, and it would do you good to come to terms with it.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (30 September 2012):
 Some people suffer from jealousy more than others and it's usually tied to some event from the past.
On your own, you probably can't control the jealousy so you may need help from a psychotherapist to help you understand where the jealousy comes from and give you coping strategies.
If the jealousy gets worse you could end up destroying the relationship,so it's probably wise to seek help and nip it in the bud.
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