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22-25,
anonymous
writes:The title says it all.I'm not a virgin, and I have alot of attractive female friends that hug and give me kisses all the time, but everytime I am around my girlfriend and she even like rubs up against me I get an erection!This has never really happend to me before, is it normal? I haven't had sex with her yet and we rarely makeout, I also haven't had sex for almost 3 years nor a girlfriend. But I get a 'boner' from like a drop of a hat kinda deal, and when I hug my girlfriend its like oh my god. She says she doesn't want a to sexual relationship right now and shes really touchy feely right now, she loves when I go behind her and put my arms around her or she just loves to rub up against me, but I feel kinda "wrong" when she rubs up against me and I got a erection and I feel like I might freak her out. She's a virgin herself, and I was just wondering should I be worrying so much about this? I've heard that some girls get kinda turned on by a guy having one, or they see it as a compliment, but when the girl is a virgin she might think of it as creepy. I haven't seen any signs tho of like her being creeped out, we are very happy I just wanna know do girls like it? IS there anything I can do to control it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2009): Awwww, young love. It's sweet.
Seriously, what's the problem? It's nice that you're that attracted to the object of your affection. It means you have really good chemistry. That's a good thing.
If you're worried about how she might react then just be careful not to grind into her when you're hugging her and whatnot.
If she becomes aware of it (if she's not already) then let her know it's because you love her so much, find her just so desirable and have never felt this way about anyone before (browny points).
I'm slightly concerned that she rarely wants to make out with you. Why is that?
I don't think you have a probelm here. And I doubt there's anything you could do about it anyway. They have a mind of their own, as I'm sure you are well aware.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2009): It's normal and there's nothing wrong with it. I'm a virgin and I LOVE when my bf gets them, it's a huge turn on. He's kind of like you he gets them all the time out of no where. Hopefully she understands that it's natural and that you can't control it.You could always talk to her and ask her if it bothers her and explain that it doesn't mean you want to pressure her into sex it's just your bodies reaction to her.
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reader, shnookims  + ♥, writes (2 November 2009):
 I'm not sure if there's anything you can do to control it, except perhaps imagining something hideous and not concentrating on how much you want her.
It sounds kinda normal though. You're still in your prime and that means you will get horny easily. The facts that you haven't had a girlfriend or sex in so long makes it even more understandable.
I guess it depends on the girl but I find that when a guy gets an erection when touching me a huge compliment and a huge turn on. I did even when I was a virgin. You shouldn't be embarrased about it, I'm sure she'll understand and she'll respect you because you're respecting her.
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