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I get jealous over girls talking to my ex. I know I shouldn't feel this way! I want to move on, but it's holding me back.

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Question - (21 February 2007) 1 Answers - (Newest, 21 February 2007)
A female , anonymous writes:

I know this may seem dumb, but I'm worried if I've left enough time for me to get over a past relationship before moving on to a new one. I broke up with my last boyfriend in Nov. 2006 and we agreed to be friends and a guy asked me out a short time after that, but I told him "let's just be friends, I just got out of a long-term relationship" (I couldn't go out with anyone) and he agreed. It's already Feb. almost March but I can't help but feel jealous when I see girls that have perused his site on myspace and left him comments.

Has anyone ever gone through this? I know I shouldn't care or feel I have any say over girls he talks to, but I can't seem to shake off this gnawing feeling. I don't want to get back together with him, yet maybe it's because I know he is a genuinely good guy and we weren't compatible and that the next girl he'll go out with he'll treat well. I guess my question is when will I stop feeling this way? He actually called me on my b-day although we don't talk regularly at all and haven't since then and he asked me if I was dating anyone and I was shocked he asked me that--why would he wnat to know? Or maybe it's just like that thing where you want to know but once you find out you wish you never asked.

He even told me he still loved me and I didn't know what to say at that at all, and he didn't either so he just changed the subject. I want to feel like I don't have any feelings left for him before even thinking about going out with someone else, but I feel like this residual jealousy says otherwise and his comments on the phone--is that indicative of anything? Yet it's not like I hate him or never wnat to speak to him, I know he has his life and maybe it's best to leave each other alone and not talk for awhile until these emotions go away--yet it kills me to think he might see someone else when I think about it. It's just so completely weird and I don't know what to think.

Hoping someone could help. Thanks

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2007):

i know how you feel i split from my bf before christmas but i have heard he has been with other girls and my heart sinks, i dont want to feel this way but it just happens.

i dont think you ever get over it there will always be a part of you that will have feelings for him as he was a big part of your life. you never know what will happen if you dont take a chance and i think that if you have feelings for someone else you should go for it,

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