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writes:I just need some advice. So about a month ago I got a job as a cashier. I was introduced to the other cashiers and our supervisors. There is this one supervisor who I immediately had a crush on. Then 2 weeks ago I found out he gave in his 2 weeks notice and was leaving. That's when I felt like this was more than just a crush. So I wrote him a note just telling him how I felt and I would like to keep in touch after he left. He responded with a note by saying he appreciated my words, but he's currently in a relationship and communication sounds fine. After that we were fine, indirectly flirting, not being really noticeable. Then on Tuesday night, night before his last. We had a great time, joking around with everyone there, talking and everything. But come Wednesday night, his last night, he said hi how are you at the start of my shift and came to my register to purchase something for his break. During the rest of the night, he pretty much avoids me. Hes going around the whole store, talking with everyone, but avoiding eye contact with me. Also at closing, as I'm counting my money, he comes to punch out. He hugs another coworker, talks to the guy standing behind me, and says a general goodbye and starts to walk away. I, however, had a card and some candy for him, so I called him back. He says I'm not good with gifts, but thank you i appreciate it. and says bye and walks out. When I'm walking out, hes driving away, and waves to me. That's it. He never asked for my number or gave me his to keep in touch. But I did give him my number in the card, with the option to call or not. This was on Wednesday night, and today is Friday afternoon. No word from him. I just wanted to know if it means, he was never interested in me. Or he is, but his being in a relationship is holding him back and he doesnt want to resort to ruining his relationship. I also recently found out, that his gf had cheated on him a while ago, and he had forgave her.. Please help! any advice would be great.
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reader, snapple6 +, writes (20 August 2011):
snapple6 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI totally agree. I would never want to be the girlfriend & have him doing this. And a few of my guy friends have told me that also. He is interested but the fact that's he's involved is holding him back. I'm not upset that he chooses to stay in his relationship, just the fact that he said communication sounds fine, & yet avoided me his last day. The day before that was all fun and great. And you're right, I'll learn my lesson this time.
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reader, Kyle007 +, writes (20 August 2011):
Just the fact he is in a relationship is enough for you to want to leave him alone and forget anything ever sparked between you and him. Do YOU want to be his girlfriend when he is flirting with a co-worker?
If you really just want to know if he was interested in you just to satisfy your curiosity and your self-image, I would have to say yes, he was. I hope that provides some closure for you.
On a personal level, there have been times where I found particular girls attractive and if they were off-limits because I was involved or they were involved, or even one time when one was below legal age, I have simply avoided them. I am not saying that I did the right thing, but I was trying to preserve my own sanity by doing this.
You seem nice. Save the card and candy for an available guy next time. And evaluate how you're going after a taken man led you to this heartbreaking situation. Its when we violate our integrity that the misery begins.
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