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I found out the man I'm dating is married

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Question - (25 June 2017) 4 Answers - (Newest, 25 June 2017)
A female Uganda age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Am dating married man but on the first he didn't tell that is married,I found it by mi self.I feel like leave him but he is caring man every woman need,He says that he loves even he took me to his home but wife unknowing that am co,What can I do?

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A female reader, Caring Aunty A Australia +, writes (25 June 2017):

Caring Aunty A agony auntHe is NOT a caring man nor what every woman needs!

What sort of woman are you talking about who says she needs this type of man... a (married) man who openly deceives his wife, by bring home the mistress to be!?

Can you not think what the right thing do is leave? He did not tell you he's married because he has plans for someone like you. He says all the right words and convinces you to stay while he aims to use you for sex... Which will make you known as the woman every (cheating) man needs after he's finished with you?

Take care not to fall for these wolves.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2017):

Not all married man will give you an STD and not all married man have multiple women dangling on a string. It ain't that easy!

He may care about you in some way, be attracted to you etc., and it depends on how much you need the escape and value the fantasy in your real life.

But just know whatever you do, that he will likely not leave his wife for you.

Prepare yourself. If you want to have some fun, then don't fall too hard for him. One day you will have to face the fact you will have to say good bye to him. It is inevitable in these situations. I mean, you may be one of the few who is different and the man may leave his wife for you, but it will be very difficult to trust him if he does. And the lack of trust would destroy any chance you would have at a healthy relationship. It is also possible he may never cheat again, but you will never in your heart believe that because he has proven capable of cheating with you.

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A female reader, Youcannotbeserious United Kingdom + , writes (25 June 2017):

Youcannotbeserious agony auntYou can put yourself in his wife's shoes and imagine how you would feel if your husband brought home a woman who is having an affair with but who he passed off as . . . what? What DID he pass you off as? A friend? A colleague?

Imagine how she is going to feel when she finds out the truth. Do YOU want to be partially responsible for that? You cannot build your happiness on someone else's unhappiness.

Even if this man left his wife for you (which is highly unlikely), how could you trust him not to do the same to you as he is doing to her?

How many other women does he "care" about?

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (25 June 2017):

Honeypie agony auntYou can end it?

The longer you continue to see him the more you will feel for him and the more it will hurt when HE dumps you (and he will when the wife finds out).

He is cheating ON you and his wife - that isn't exactly a good man's actions - is it?

He either LIED to you to get you to date him or he withheld VITAL information to get you to date/sleep with him. That isn't a good man's actions either - is it?

Or you can fill your head with fantasies that he really DOES care about you and continue, till he dumps you.

Why waste your time on a man that isn't YOURS and who can't commit to you? All he can give you is his penis and promises... and an STD perhaps...

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