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writes:I am not one to 'stay out of it' when I find a person cheating on their boyfriend/girlfriend. However, I recently found out that my sister has been repeatedly cheating on her fiance (they have been together about 4 1/2 years. My brother accidentally stumbled upon it when he asked to use her phone to text; he saw text messages to other guys. When I went through her phone, I saw pictures to guys (none of which were her fiance) and text messages telling guys what a good time she had doing things with them, when to meet up with her, where so they wouldn't get caught, etc. (By the way, I don't feel as if I shouldn't have gone through her text messages because she has done things like gone through my phone and even go so far as reading my diary for no reason...not even because she was concerned...just for fun. And she also lives at home with our family, and he lives at his home with his family...just to clear that up.) Her fiance has become a part of the family, and though I am not personally close to him, I don't feel anyone should be treated this way. Usually, I would tell the person who is being cheated on what I have found, but I don't have the nerve this time. She's my sister, and he loves her to death.What do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2009): HI THEREplease confront her and tell ALL. i found out recently that my brother has been cheating on his wife for 8 years with an ex lesbian. i was the only one brave enough to confront him and found out all the shit he was up to. but he has in the meanwhile forbid me to tell anyone anything else . he wants time to break it off with his whore. basically he has taped my big mouth but knowing me , i will find a way to spill the shit soon. my sister in law is a good wife, a good mother and a decent human being. she doesn't deserve to be treated in the way she has been. i am strategising currently to put an end to his betrayal. so much at stake here and myself and my sisters have been crying buckets at his betrayal. we are currently powerless to do anything since he has won this round. but i will get him once my head is right and emotions in check.more to follow soon.so i know how you feel and yes wrong should not triumph.spill the beans but please be ready for the ramifications. your sis doesn't deserve her fiance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2009): I would strongly urge you to tell your sister's fiance about this as it would be very WRONG of you not to. I believe that cheating is one of the most dispicable hurtful things that one human being can do to another. My wife had an affair after twenty year's of marrage and it broke my heart it also caused me to have a mental breakdown. So you see cheating can actually destroy people. You sound like a nice caring person so do the decent thing and tell her fiance anonymously if you have to. you will be saving this innocent man from hell so please do the right thing and god will reward you. If you stay ot of it and not tell him then you are no better than your sister. Who knows you might even help your sister become a better person as she will think twice before hurting anyone again in the future. I beg you do the right thing. best of luck to you. nicky
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2009): tell him anonymously. write a letter or have someone u trust call him and tell him or better yet create a fake email account and send him an email, and tell him that way.however you do it, i agree that he needs to know.
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reader, GrimmReality + ♥, writes (3 November 2009):
 If you let them get married and he finds out(which he eventually will) that she not only cheated but her family members knew about it he'd have every right to spit in your face.Family or not doing what is right is what has to be done.How'd you like it if the tables were reversed? The cheating is bad enough but covering it up is even worse, and reprehensible on your part of you continue to do so. To do anything but inform him is just awfulTell your sister to come clean with him or you will! That is the only way to rid your conscience of this discovery. Keeping it a secret may benefit your sister in the short term, but down the road you will be forced to answer some very unnerving questions, because it always comes out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2009): This is really sad and I wouldn't want to be in your situation. But trust me, you tell her fiance and you are going to open up a hornet's nest! And sadly, the odds are, he won't believe you..and it wouldn't be a surprise if both of them turn on you. Been there..done that. I know this isn't what you want to hear, but unless you want to get WWIII started in your family, it would be best to stay out of it.
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