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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. About six months ago we had a fight which lead him to pushing me and choking me. He told me he could never be with me because of what he had done. I love him so much that I couldnt let him go. It has been 6 months now and I cant stop thinking about that day. We could be having the best day in the world together but when it comes to mind my attitude toward him changes 100%. I guess I forgave him but I just cant seem to forget. It has got to the point where I dont feel happy. I love him with everything I have and I want to be with him forever. He is starting to have a poor attitude with me and I feel that he is not in love with me anymore. We have talked about everything the couple weeks ago and I expressed to him how sorry I was and how selfish I was not to let him walk away but then to put him through hell. I have been a different person which has helped but he is now showing an attitude with me. When talking to each other he is very short. Please help me...What should I do? Should I give up or fight? Reply to this Question
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reader, 0101A  +, writes (23 February 2009):
You answered the question yourself, fight! Its easy for people to say leave him because he hurt you, but if it has just been the once sometimes it is best to forgive and (try) forget.I know its not the same, but my bf cheated on me 4months into the relationship and it still affects me sometimes today, it will never go away.If he loves you as much as you love him i see no reason for you not being able to sort it out :)xxx
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (23 February 2009):
 I too was in an abusive relationship, though, like yours, it wasn't at an epic "Ike and Tina" level.My ex husband and I used to fight to the point where I wouldn't let him walk away to cool down, and eventually he would lose his temper on me. It happened so infrequently that I never thought of myself as a victim until now.If you want to commit to him, and work on things, I really see no other option than couples counselling. You two may find a way to forgive what happened, and move on together. Counseling can help you two with anger management and communication skills to help ensure that his anger never gets the best of you both again. But, if you find that you two really cannot move on from the incident, then I don't think it would be healthy to stay in that relationship. I can understand that sometimes things get out of hand, but if the emotions are this strong and negative, then you owe it to yourself to be free of that heartache.
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