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Torie10
writes:Hi everyone, hope you are all ok. Well my dilema is, that i am a 41 divorced mum of 2 daughters. I have been seeing a guy for 4 years now, we don't live toghether, due to finances etc.But the thing is, i do love him on some level, and he is quite supportive to me, but i find him really boring! When we go out, our conversation just dries up even after a few minutes, he is a builder but has no hobbies and does not see much of his friends, if we ever go out for a drink, he just sits there looking really bored, and we come home shortly after and just watch the telly together. Its agony!!I have spoken to him about this and he says 'well there you are then, its just part of us'. Its a nightmare, we have been on holiday together and i get so bored of the same crap conversation, that we just end up arguing. He hates talking about anything to deep!!Help i feel so guilty when i think about dumping him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2008): hi, this made me laugh because I have just typed in " my boyfriend is boring me" on google to try and get some answers and found your question. :0)
I am exactly the same age and divorced with 2 kids and my current boyfriend is mr nice guy... but oh so boring. I have longer conversations with strangers in check out queues at the supermarket than I do with him. like you say, its painful. ive got male friends I can talk to for hours and hours at a time. he has no friends spends all his spare time visiting his equally boring mum dad sister and brother in law and has no hobbies whatsoever. I realised he was probably not "the one " a few months ago when he said " i think i will put my name down for an allotment" he is 34!!!
i am trying to find advice on how to dump him kindly as he is very kind and lovely.. but has the personality of a garden gnome.
samantha
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reader, Torie10 +, writes (12 May 2008):
Torie10 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks Uncle Phil, thats good advice, i know you are right. I feel so terrible about finishing our relationship, as i know that he does love me.
Although he does find my children quite annoying, as they do quarrel sometimes.
Take care from Torie
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reader, Uncle_Phil +, writes (12 May 2008):
 I can quite easily put myself in his shoes. For some reason, women are able to talk all day about anything and everything whereas men find that waffling on inanely and trying to sound interesting is rather more of an intellectual struggle, especially when the woman says "you never talk" and she needs some conversation which will be an instant conversation killer!
What you need is some common ground and then there will be something to interest you both and you can discuss whatever it is together.
If there's no common ground you've got a difficult task ahead of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2008): Sounds like its already over. so tell himGood luck
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