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writes:I find it very alarming that we are accepting 15 and 16 yr olds as agony aunt/uncles and allowing them to give advice to vulnerable and or confused people Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2008): i completley understand what your saying and naturally i agree but i think that you have to show a level of maturity to give advice and to seek it. sometimes you have to be of that age group and really relate to the issue to truely understand it, even if the responce is irrational or irresponsible to you. its only advice and you dont have to take it.
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reader, eddie  + ♥, writes (14 November 2008):
 I find it more alarming that some people actually give advice about very serious matters to minors. As far as I know there are no professionals here and it's probably better to direct underage people to professionals in their particular areas. I wouldn't want someone telling my young daughter what is OK sexually etc. There are some pretty explicit concepts thrown around on this site and we really don't know the people being advised.
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reader, leni  +, writes (13 November 2008):
i totally agree!!!!
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reader, pepper27 + ♥, writes (13 November 2008):
 Hi Hun
I've read some very good reply's from young people, And I've read some very childish reply's from older people... It can go the other way of course but on the whole as birdy said moderators and the VETO of 'Vote to Remove is there for a reason....Young people need someone to understand them and what they may be going through, In there home life, At school, And with sex..If as a young person you have learnt a lesson the hard way as we all do. Then it is good experience to help another...Young or older we all go through different problems, Some at a younger age than others, So its good to have a wide variety of ages on the site to help..TAKE CARE WITH LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, oldfool  +, writes (13 November 2008):
 You can usually tell the level of experience or the mentality of a person from their replies. Some teenage replies read just like that -- juvenile responses. Others are remarkably balanced and mature. And the same variation can be found in responses from older people.
Finally, just remember: "There's no fool like an old fool"!
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reader, staceyxxx +, writes (13 November 2008):
 no matter what age every young person has problems it is natural maybe they could go about it a different way but they are confused if you are so concerned, guide them or tell them to ask someone close to them.they are only confused remember they are only kids
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reader, birdynumnums + ♥, writes (13 November 2008):
 The fact that we have ~Vote to remove unhelpful or hurtful answer~ under each reply helps.
Besides, having everything going through our wonderful moderators ALSO helps to keep all of the answers relevant, and not all of the answers that MOI would give are relevant to the people I am answering, as in a recent question about testing a boyfriend, where I was made to feel about 113 years old and so far out of the loop that I should be using a walker (hey, almost but not quite). The fact is, people also need different advice at different ages, and for the most part, every age group can be helpful and without malice, and have, perhaps, a better understanding of *what it is that the questioner is hoping to have answered*.
Having said that, Couldn't Someone have removed the answer that called me Bimbo Birdy Num Nuts? Crack me up!
I know a lot of young people who are wise beyond their years. I think with the moderators and the VETO of 'Vote to Remove..' provides the site with a pretty good 'fail safe' against harmful information.
ALSO urge people to use that dump button JUDICIOUSLY!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2008): I'd also like to mention that on my old account I was rated about 74 in the top 100 aunts on the site. I was 16 when I was given this rating.
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reader, hlskitten + ♥, writes (12 November 2008):
 Its a fair point Kylie, and one you are entitled to voice I would think
C xxxxx
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reader, x..BabyGirl..x +, writes (12 November 2008):
 I'm 13, I turn 14 on December 23rd, I answer as any other would. If I see a question asking about underage sex, I discourage it, it's illegal and will be deeply regretted, so I don't encourage it.I've been told I'm good at giving advice and in one plea for help on here, the poster was private mailing me for my advice on their situation having read my advice on their post. So by askin why they let 15 and 16 year olds give advice to people in their, say thirties, who really need help is possibly the same as me asking why they allow 60 year old men reply to 13 year old girls asking for help. See what I mean?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2008): This isn't really fair. You're judging by age and that sucks for everyone. Since you're going to reject my advice anyways(I am 15), then I'm just going to point out that you're an old cranky person that probably hates your life. See how that made you feel? I didn't really mean it. I was just giving you a taste of your own medicine. What I said was judging you even though I don't know you. I wasn't being serious. In reality, I wouldn't ever say something like that.
Everyone has a right to post on this site. I have seen adults your age posting the most riduculous and immature answers, but is it fair to say that you do the exact same thing, just because you are the same age? No. It is not. It's not like I go to people asking advice on marrige and children. I steer clear of those because I know that I don't know what they're going through. I will answer questions to those whom I actually KNOW the situation.
I'm not saying that every single teenager on this site gives the best answers. In fact, most are just plain stupid about some issues and shouldn't bother. But some are actually smart, kind, and wise about the situation.
Please don't be stereotypical. You wouldn't want the teenagers on this site to do the same to you.
Sincerely,
MNB
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reader, Ask The Leprechaun +, writes (12 November 2008):
 I notice that many of the problems on this site are quite often about age gaps, and yes while some of that is just teenage lust and immaturity, you should notice that one of the reasons why this happens is because the two people involved are roughly the same mental/inner age despite the difference in chronological age.
I think the majority of teens join this site to post problems rather than to solve all that many. And yes there are 16 year olds who will tell 13 year olds to lose their virginities or give them oral sex tips, but that is only a small price to pay for the right to free speech. I for one am glad that this website will publish problems which others might disregard as vulgar, sick, or taboo.
but you shouldn't judge everyone by this stereotype. Imagine how differently you would judge teenagers if it was not their age labelled to their answers, but their IQ.
Think about it, who's advice are you more likely to follow, someone with an IQ of 94 or 149? this shouldn'd alter your jugement either really, as everyone's opinions are equally valid. My uncle has an IQ of 94, he is 36. I have an IQ of 149, I'm 16. But neither of these factors should influence whether someone is "qualified" to give advice, what you really should consider is emotional IQ, not many people know what theirs is, but if you have any yourself, you should get a pretty good idea from the content of their answer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2008): In Regard to the answer from "The One who Doesn't Know"...
YOU GO GIRL! That was a great answer!
Age is just a state of mind! I may be in my 50's but I still relate to people of all ages...As a matter of fact, I relate to experiences...Not age! I get insulted when people refer to me as old (although I know I am) I just don't think about my age!
It doesn't matter how old you are (or young) if you have something to say that could possibly help another...then, go for it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2008): 'ang on a minute - who the hell here IS actually qualified to give advice? And what is meant by 'qualified'? Like most of the answers here, it has been my experience that a lot of early teens have shown a remarkable maturity in the advice they have given. Also, I am certain that their experiences of life far exceed what a lot of 'oldies' have experienced, thereby 'qualifying' them to give an answer. At the end of the day, it is only advice and people can think about it, take it, leave it or seek professional help.
More power to young aunts!
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reader, Taylor_1118  +, writes (11 November 2008):
You are right but you cant control the net hopefully people will do the right hting and answer age accordingly
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reader, _kylie_ + ♥, writes (11 November 2008):
_kylie_ is verified as being by the original poster of the question Okay guys, crucify me but I still don't think 15 year olds should be giving advice to 13 year olds on how 2 give blow jobs while having a brace fitted. You comment all you like but I stand my ground on what I said!
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reader, Jizelle +, writes (11 November 2008):
Why should answers from 15 and 16 year olds be any less valid? If someone like yourself were to completely disregard advice given to you by a teen just because of their age, that's your lookout. And thats a shame, but ok. But teens on this site are trying to help people just like everyone else, and I don't see how that could be considered in any way 'alarming'No disrespect, but in future I think you should read before you judge. And try to view teenagers as the intelligent human beings that most of us are, until we give you reason to believe otherwise.xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2008): Well teenagers in this day in age grow up A LOT faster than the older generations did so i'd say our advice is very sound and it should be taken into consideration because a lot of us, not saying we all are, but a lot are very wise beyond their years.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2008): People can choose whether they take the advice or not, and there are often several replies to choose from, so I don't see it as a problem. Age isn't always the best indicator or who can help and who can't.
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reader, the one who doesn't know  +, writes (11 November 2008):
 I know how you feel, you think that knowledge comes with age. It's simple to say when you're that age (not wanting to call you an old person), but sometimes, as others have said, youngsters believe more in others their age instead of older supposedly more mature people. I've seen people with 20, 30, 40 years giving advice that can be considered crap and I've seen how some teenagers are ignored when they are giving perfectly good advice. Some of it is even advice I would qualify as being of a perfectly mature person but I've found maturity doesn't come with age, but with experience, which some teenagers have had and better even I'm going to blow all of this comment, by saying the simple fact I'm 13.best wishes, hope you'll reconsider on your opinion.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2008): What qualifies anybody to proffer advice? It just multiplies another persons problems.
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reader, Sweety Pie +, writes (11 November 2008):
 Im only just 15 and I have been advising on here for ages and I think I have a right to say what we think. Im not completly stupid, and questions I dont know about (affairs etc) I stay out off! There are others more qualified to answer that question, yet im sure they would have no clue about teenage issues. =]
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reader, Anonny +, writes (11 November 2008):
I hear what you are saying Kylie, - but the embarrassing thing is that some of these teenagers are more streetwise than us lot!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2008): Actual age doesn't always reflect mental age. I'm not being funny but read people's answers before you judge them. And sometimes a teen problem is best answered by a teen, because the ways of the world (and of young people) have changed very much.
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reader, shiraz +, writes (11 November 2008):
hiyah i completely get what your saying but its not like they are harming really is it? i dont let the age of somebody answering affect what it is thay are saying. there here to help and thers no age limit on it is there? if any comments were inapropriate or abusive in some way id understand but thats checked out before posted and the only reason people are posting is simply to help and advise people, i dont see how thats a problem?
its not a site designed for a debate its to help people. i respect what your saying but dont judge its not what this is about. stick to what its for and do your bit to help rather than cause a problem that isnt needed.
what ever your age!
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reader, hlskitten + ♥, writes (11 November 2008):
Ive noticed a couple of extremely well balanced teens answer on here. And like the others have said, answers are still screened before going live on the site. If they aren't its because the member has proved their answers are of a certain quality beforehand.
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reader, Angels Eyes +, writes (11 November 2008):
 I don't think it's fair what you're saying cause i'm thirteen and i think i give as good an answer to certain questions as any thirty year old!!
It doesn't matter what age you are everyone has been through something the same as someone else and as the person said before you can stop them making the same mistake you made i might have the answer to something you don't have the answer to so if you were to stop young girls/boys putting there answers on the person might not get a wide range of answers and young people answer quite a lot of questions read some and you might notice that!!
xxxANGELS EYESxxx
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reader, Emilysanswers + ♥, writes (11 November 2008):
All answers are moderated and checked for quality.
Sometimes hearing from someone your own age can be more beneficial than a load of adults.
If you were 13 and wanting know if you should have sex and lots of people in their 30's told you that you were too young, would you listen? Probably not. What do they know?
If you got answers from several 14 year olds saying that they wanted to wait / had done it and deeply regretted it then it might actually sink in.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Austinalive +, writes (11 November 2008):
I thoroughly agree. Some days ago a girls was asking advices about losing virginity at age 14. Most of us told her to wait, then there's was another 14 yo girl that said "hey i'm 14 too, i made it, just go ahead". Whom do you think she'll listen? of course, and sadly, her same age advicer.
Now the worse part is that these teenagers aunts don't really advice, they just don't want to feel alone in what they're doing, so they encourage others to follow'em. So sad.
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