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I felt I had no other option than to do what I did. But will he suss out that I sent it?

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Question - (29 July 2015) 2 Answers - (Newest, 30 July 2015)
A female United States age 18-21, anonymous writes:

What do you guys think about sending fake messages under a pseudonym?

I know you are going to think this trivial and trouble making - but I just need your answers:-

I needed to get a message to this bloke on Facebook - he had blocked me (all because we had a bad fallout over a girl he liked) but he was continually telling lies about me and saying I was spreading rumours - which just wasn't true.

Anyway, this girl in question was gossiping about him so I thought - I bet if he hears the gossip he'll think it's me - so I sent him a message under a different name saying what she had said.

I have had no reply (which I didn't expect) - but equally - he hasn't blocked this strange person (me) - so I'm wondering - was that a good way to get my point across - seeing he won't listen to any other way?

Or will he just suss it's me?

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (30 July 2015):

Honeypie agony auntMy guess? He will suss it out eventually and THEN crap will hit YOUR fan. I get that you don't want to get accused of saying stuff about this guy, BUT it's NOT your job to tell him who said what about him. It only makes you look... kookier.

Take this to heart, Advice I

YOU CAN NOT control what other people THINK, SAY or FEEL about you. And no amount of "weird" online behavior won't change that. He won't turn around and BE nice to you or think you are a good person.

Advice part II

You are not the gossip police. If you don't want to get involved in gossip drama - don't participate.

Advice III

OWN your own crap. IF you say or do something you later regret BE the bigger person and OWN it, if confronted. If someone accuse you of saying/doing something you DID NOT DO, stand up for yourself, but also accept that you can't CHANGE what other's think etc. IT's a WASTE of energy.

The guy sounds like a moron, who cares WHAT he thinks of you anyways? You say you don't want to be part of drama... but what do you think you are starting by creating a fake account to tell someone some gossip? DRAMA!

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A female reader, Slippers  United Kingdom +, writes (30 July 2015):

Why why why ....waste your time, energy, on a guy that bad mouths you .. I mean who cares if he thinks it's you that's started these rumours .. He already thinks your poo on his shoe already, hence he blocked you .

Listen sweetie life is far to short .. focus on people who want you in their life .. real life .. not behind a computed screen ..

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