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writes:Hello dearcupids, I have just experienced a weird experience. So I would love to hear your opinions. I met a girl yesterday during a journey. She was sitting next to me in the bus. We kept talking the most of the time during the journey. I think i like her, and she seems to like me too from her way of talking, but i realized during the conversation that she is a cousin sister of a girl who rejected me 2 years ago. It disheartened me, because i felt that it is not right to try hitting a sister of someone whom i proposed. I don't know what i was thinking, i still asked her contact number, which she gave me readily. I told her that i'd call her. But I've not her yet, still not sure should I go ahead or not. Please give honest opinion. Have you ever come across similar situations? Thank you all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2015): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you youwish for your valuable opinion. It was of great help.
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (15 February 2015):
 How close is she to her cousin?? That does weigh in on WHEN you should tell her, and trust me, it's not IF you should tell her, it's WHEN. In any rate, you'll be telling her before you get sexual with her, to be sure.
If she is close to her cousin, there is the matter of doing right by the family. Even if she is passing acquaintance as well, it needs to be disclosed quickly before it gets really awkward.
Tell her on the first or second date. You don't have to go into detail, but tell her that you and her cousin were serious, but that it ended and she didn't feel the same as you did.
ALSO, and you need to be truthful about this do not date this woman if you're not over her cousin or her rejection. The fact that she said "no" 2 years ago doesn't mean that it's okay with you. You'll be using the poor girl to re-live your feelings for someone else if you're not over the past.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2015): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOh i forgot to mention that i've not told her about my proposing her sister in the past and getting rejected.
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