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writes:i dumped mr.married 2wks ago! im 18 and i had an affair for 4 months with my boss (35 and married with 2 sons aged 1 and 4 yrs old)at the time i thought it was fun,the sex was brill and i really really liked himnobody ever found out about our secret and i dont want anybody to find out ever,coz too much hassle,we wud both get fired,im tryna get over him.i love my job and im not gonna let that bastard make me quit my job,im gonna lift my head up high and stand proud!i took 2 pregnancy tests and both said not pregnant my period is 2 months late(due to stress at school and i also lost 4 stone very suddenly and recently)i hope i get my period soon just to put my mind at resthe wanted me to get an abortion so i dumped himbut only yesterday i found out that he's having affairs for the past 10years with the girls that i work with!!!!!i was going to complain him to his boss but to my shock i only found out yesterday that he is also cheating on his wife(and his kids are same age as me)i feel like i can never trust a man ever againi feel used and abusedjust wanna say to all the girls out thereplease do not even think about having affairsits not worth the pain and heartache that i have suffered trust me girls please find a nice single man that cares about you!nobody deserves to go thru what i had toim glad i dumped himi hate him! he was the biggest mistake of my life i deeply regret iti have learned a valuble lesson! i hope you do too!
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reader, rhythmandblues2  + ♥, writes (13 December 2006):
 When you decide to leave your job, be sure and protect yourself first by writing your own recommendation letter and give it to your boss and have him sign it on his letterhead....then give your two weeks notice in writing and copy your human resources manager on it.
After you leave with good references, I would think about calling your human resources manager (if you have thoe in the UK) and reporting the sexual harassment you experienced on the job....even though you were a willing partner, your boss abused his power over you to start an affair with you, I bet you were worried if you did not, you might get fired by this man....what a jerk, and I am sorry you went through with the affair, never have an affair with any married man in the future, you learned your lesson now move on, it is you, you need to learn to trust again, not men, you made a very poor decision, now learn from it and vow not to repeat it.
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reader, Irish49  + ♥, writes (13 December 2006):
 I agree wholeheartedly with Baby Girl. She gives you good, compassionate advice. I commend you for making the commitment to openly and honestly look at your past to discover what went wrong and what you want to do differently in your next relationship. You now know there are some unscrupulous characters out there who do use others. Don't beat yourself up over this. Take what you learned, be strong and use that knowledge to discriminate.
Just note, there are wonderful, good quality men out there. You've now learned something that you apply to your train of thought when discerning what kind of man is good for you and your future. You will find a good guy...and always uphold yourself to high standards. Think smart and keep using your head from now on. Now get out there and enjoy life, keep smiling and be positive. Take care my dear and the best of luck.
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