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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I would like to ask others how often it is normal for a husband to notice a wife appearance when she dresses nicely to go out or pay a compliment in a marriage. We have been married 15 years and I never remember my husband really doing this . I could count the compliments he has paid me on one hand and sometimes I worry he is not even attracted to me I see him look at other women all the time and compliment them with his eyes but I never even get that admiring look from him. I feel totally invisible, old and worthless in his eyes Yet if I go out with a friend I sometimes see a man look at me that way The problem is that I want to be admired by my husband not a random stranger Is this normal. Am I just old and boring to him. It seems no matter how much I mix it up I'm just not attractive to him Reply to this Question
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reader, Los Cuyosoundzz  +, writes (9 September 2014):
You're between 36 and 40... I know a girl of 36 (I say girl because she looks younger) who is stunning.
Maybe you are just suffering from low self esteem and need a boost. How about a makeover? I'm not saying you're unattractive, just saying that would give you new found confidence. Maybe you FEEL boring, and if you FELT confident, you would be happier?
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (8 September 2014):
 Yes it is normal to feel the way you do,sad,but normal. We men do tend to become comfortable with our partners of oh so many years. we seem to be the last to appreciate how unloved it makes our partner feel when we admire or look at another woman, yet,it's not with malice that we fail to understand a woman's feelings. We are after all, just a man. If I could, I'd love to appologize for your husband. I bet if he really understood your dilema he'd break down and cry. My wife and i just observered our 50th anniversary and I can't remember the last time I told her just how much she means to me,so thank you for your question. I hope these words reduce your anxiety a small bit.Good luck
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