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I feel that my vagina hole is small. Only one finger fits up and if you try two it hurts!

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Question - (8 April 2008) 17 Answers - (Newest, 26 February 2012)
A female United Kingdom age 22-25, anonymous writes:

I feel that my vagina hole is small. Only one finger fits up and if you try two it hurts! Also a dildo can't go up inside because it's so small. What's wrong ?

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A female reader, anonoumous United Kingdom +, writes (26 February 2012):

dont worry when it comes to sex men like tighter vaginas belive me! but if its bothering you keep fingering yourself and it will make it looser

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A female reader, vall Canada +, writes (8 October 2010):

Ya my virgina it to samll and i put a dildo in the first time and omg felt so good just need to relaxe

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2010):

it depends what age you are when i started fingering myself it was really tight becuase i didnt break my hymen once you have sex it will be easy to fit fingers up or a dildo but until then just gently pleausre yourself with one finger and pull GENTLY on your pussy walls

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A reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2010):

I had the same problem just relax

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2009):

I had the same problem and after being told that sex can hurt for the first few times, I realised if I couldn't do 2 fingers, how was I gonna fit a penis in there?! So I persevered and found that reading "erotic stories" before/during masterbation helped and the first few times I tried 2 fingers, it hurt a bit but it got less and less painful every time. I can now do 2 with no problem and I'm still trying on 3 XD So yeah, persevere, put up with the pain and relax (: Hope this helps and good luck! x

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A male reader, singhal Iceland +, writes (22 October 2009):

This is normal thing being a virgin girl.It's also depend on body structure as far as i think you are slim girl with small thighs.Second thing your age is not having sexual practices.However, you want to insert more than one finger in your vagina it is not a tough thing just use some lubricant and insert second finger after first finger, in this way if you can;t get success then see some adult movies when you get excitement fully,your viginal openings will stretch that time you can insert two or three fingers very easily in your small hole or a penis first time you feel pain but during the excitement you will not care about pain after three, four time you will be able to insert two fingers very easily whenever require.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2009):

for the first time it is usual. but when you will loss your virginity it will get wider than now n you will feel great pleasure.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2009):

i have the same problem i feel relaxed but only get 1 finger up i try to get 2 up up but it cant fit

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2009):

That is what happens to woman but if you try it a few times and relax, it won't be a problem

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A female reader, 14sj14 United Kingdom +, writes (15 March 2009):

it always hurts the first time. Do it a few times and you will be fine after.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2008):

That is the same thing fo rme i cant fit a dildo up my vagina hole PLEASE SOMEONE HELP US

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2008):

yes it happens to me too

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2008):

the same happens to me

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A male reader, LazyGuy Netherlands +, writes (8 April 2008):

LazyGuy agony auntIt is simple, the vagina can stretch wide enough to allow the passage of a baby, although women claim this hurts a bit, crybaby's.

But it can also contract, thight enough to allow no entry whatsoever, this ain't odd, the muscles are the same as in your ass, obviously capable of squeezing thight enough to keep gas trapped.

It is possible to learn to control these muscles, but mostly they operate involuntary.

For a virgin, the muscles will be contracted fairly thightly simply because they never have had to be anything else, this is one of the reasons sex often hurts at first for women, because the muscles are being stretched which never have been before.

A problem can occur when the body tries to prevent what it knows is painful by contracting the muscle to prevent further harm. If you are nervous and know it is going to hurt when you shove two fingers inside then your body is going to try and protect itself. It is like trying to poke yourselve in the eye.

What you need to do is to try and relax and start very slow with gentle stimulation and not worry about it if it don't work the first time. Men got a similar problem with the erection, if you worry about your erection, then it won't happen, making you worry even more, making it happen even less.

Convince your body that it don't hurt by starting slowly and taking plenty of time and try and relax. Lube also helps, although at your age getting the right stuff might be a bit akward.

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A female reader, AskEve United Kingdom +, writes (8 April 2008):

AskEve agony auntIf a vagina can open up to let a baby's head out then it's highly unlikely that you're too small. You're just too tense. You need to relax more and when you do this your vagina will stretch easily. This is why sex can be painful for some people when they have it for the first time, BECAUSE they are tense and not relaxed enough. Everyone is different though and sex is not painful for everyone first time around, it just depends on the circumstances.

~Eve~

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2008):

Are u a virgin?? If you are..Than don't worry about it,, thats normal, thats why sex hurts so much the first time. If your not,, then i'm stumped..I'd agree with the previous answer, that says your not turned on enough

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A reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2008):

Maybe you are not turned on enough. Trust me, when the time comes, you will be ready.

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