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I feel such distance and we live in the same house

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Question - (16 July 2010) 2 Answers - (Newest, 19 July 2010)
A female United States age 41-50, *oveIsStrongerThanPride writes:

So I've been with my boyfriend for about ten years with short term break ups here and there. We were engaged last year. He took the ring back from me due to a large argument (long story) and I ended up leaving, I moved into my own apartment. After only a couple months he was texting me and we started talking and hanging out again, Valentines Day was the first night out together again. So now two weeks ago I have moved back in, all though he says now that he wasn't ready for me to move back in and now he says he is not in love with me. He is very distant, we don't kiss or touch, etc. A big reason for his anger is my financial problems, I work in Real Estate which is commission only and I am having problems, so I think that stress plus the fact that I left again, he said he is afraid to get burned again. I am trying desperately to prove my love to him and I don't want to lose him. How can I earn his love back? Does he really not feel in love with me. I love him so much, I will never feel this way about anyone else bc of our history. I take good care of him, I cook, I clean, I give massages, im affectionate.......but now this distance I can't take it, I feel so rejected and we live in the same house. I was hoping to get my ring back and go back to the way we were but now I have to worry if we will have anything at all. Last week I saw in his phone that he is on dating site and he was logged in, I saw that he messaged a girl that day, after me moving in just a week before! He obviously doesn't feel the same, what do I do, I can't even concentrate on work when I need to bad, everything, my world is falling apart, please help, all advice appreciated.

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A female reader, LoveIsStrongerThanPride United States +, writes (19 July 2010):

LoveIsStrongerThanPride is verified as being by the original poster of the question

LoveIsStrongerThanPride agony auntWow why did I only get two answers. Thanks guys. Anyway things are better now.

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (16 July 2010):

I think you're deluding yourself a bit with this guy. I know you love him, but this just isn't working out at all. You've had a few break ups before this, and then got engaged and now you're not engaged and broken up again. And to top it off, he's on dating sites. You seem like a really great girl, but you're wasting your entire life with this man. On/off relationships don't work, and this is an example if it. The moment you've moved out, he was on dating sites. More to the point, you've moved back and he's still on the dating site. Not a good sign. You're wasting so much time with this man.

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