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writes: I feel very guilty because I have dreams with other guys all the time. I feel so guilty because I have a boyfriend. I even had a dream with his brother like two days ago. I know really really deep inside I have kind of a crush on his brother, and I think he might feel the same way. I can just feel the mutual attraction. What can I do to stop having all these dreams with these guys??? I feel like my feelings are wrong because I'm with him, but I don't know what to do to stop these dreams.
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reader, David Lewis  +, writes (8 October 2006):
 Don't be guilty for dreaming. In my dreams, I have killed people, slept with cousins, had gay relationships, has sex with exes sister, did all kinds of stuff I would never do in reality.
You can't control your dreams, so don't feel guilty about things you haven't done.
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reader, mgmf62604 +, writes (8 October 2006):
I was going through the almost the same thing not too long ago...anyway here's my advice - you can't stop your dreams, they are your link to reality. And they're just dreams hun, you shouldn't feel bad, it's not like you're actually out there messing with his brother. You're feelings aren't wrong either. I've been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years now and we just recently got out of a huge argument/fight about me not being ready to settle down with him. I kept having feelings for this other guy and I thought I was a bad person because of it, but soon I realized that the only reason i was feeling like that was because I wanted to get out there and make sure that my boyfriend was the one I wanted to spend the rest of my life with (i dont believe in divorce unless its part of adultery or abuse)
also, i was all of a sudden not attracted to my boyfriend, I still loved him, but he just wasn't as attractive as he used to be... I think that it all comes down to the fact that you're wanting to make sure that you're boyfriends "the one" All I can say is enjoy what you can... and if you have to - take a break from your current situation and see what's really up.
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reader, rammsteinfan  +, writes (8 October 2006):
 First of all, it's only dreams and you actually weren't unfaithful, and you shouldn't feel guilty at all. What you should do is write your dreams down in a journal type notebook as soon as you wake up.. Make sure that no one reads it but you. There are people who anylyze dreams and you would be surprized that your dreams are totally different than what you think they are!
You then should give all your attention to your boyfriend. You should kinda keep his brother at bay, and pull your thoughts and feelings to the boyfriend. Do not pull his brother into it unless you and bf are not really in love with each other. But if you do really love him and want to be with him, then don't mention to him about his brother...that would not be too good!
Again, don't feel guilty about dreams unless you decide to act upon them! Let know know what happens... I care
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