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writes:i know this will sound sad but here it is..9 months ago i had depression which caused me to de-friend myself and exclued my self from life i guess you could say. school becames hard as i entered a key year and it all got on top of me and i stated to take it out on my self in many ways. i had a panic attack in lesson and my teacher saw what i was doing to myself and pulled me out and talked to me. he made me see that i need help and that i had to get it fast as i was slowly ruining my life. i saw a doctor and got advice.a week later i found out he had told all my teachers what i had done. this cause me to sprial backwards. now my teachers treat me differently but im not like that anymore and i feel like my life will always be like a stuck record on that one point were my life collapsed. i asked him why he told them and he said its better for people to know but now i feel i can't even go to my lessons because i feel conered and like everyones my business and stares at me because of him .... what can i do im clueless please help x
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2008): Hi
I understand what you are saying.... and i think you should be proud of how you have overcome your difficulties. Try not to worry what anybody thinks about you i am sure your teachers mean well even if they don't quite understand, thats if they do know?. The main thing is you have turned a corner in yourlife and feel better...i would suggest that each time they look at you ...you smile and say hello..be confident that in time this will fade. Keep blossoming and acheiving and remember we all have problems that are often hidden,when we stop worring what OTHERS think of us we can concentrate on having fun. You have moved on so keep doing so and try not to let the past hold yu back in any way..let it be a stepping stone into a fresh new life with a new outlook on life that is positive. You are strong and can make a good future for yourself. I wish YOU so much luck and always remember to laugh and smile through life and even troubles.. it does help...twenty years ago i was in a similar place as you...and life is now wonderful! it was vey very hard quite often but i learned to laugh... and i did have very painful experiences myself but even they have blessings today...it is how we deal with things that makes a difference...and LAUGHTER is one of your greatest friends, forget the past (as you have) laugh in the moment..and don't worry about the future AND ABOVE ALL WHAT OTHERS THINK ABOUT YOUR PAST it has gone ..if others want to stay in the past leave them there...and carry on moving... one day you may be a great inspiration to others who find them selves depressed and you can show them how t MOVE ON AND OUT OF A PAINFUL SITUATION.
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reader, scrazy  +, writes (8 July 2008):
 Your teacher may have thought it would be best that your other teachers were informed about your condition, so they would be more empathetic and understanding towards you.
In a way he was right. But I understand why you would feel betrayed, I've struggled with depression since I was 12 and only 1 of my teachers knew because I was at the social worker's during her period. But I'm sure the others figured out since I looked like hell in class and they started treating me like a glass doll.
You need to show people that you're okay now and what happened in the past, is remaining in the past. Tell your teacher that while you appreciated his concern, you would like for him to ask your other teachers to stop treating you differently, it's making you self-conscious and it feels like people are invading your privacy.
Unfortunately, people may continue to treat you differently no matter what you do, all that you can do in response is to carry on with your life.
Hope this helps.
xo
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (8 July 2008):
 well first of all he shouldnt have told anyone without asking you first. you need to talk to your principal and tell him/her wat happened and how its making you feel. also ask him/her, if they could stop the teachers from treating you differently as its only making things worse for you. he should have kept wat you told him confidential and he disrespected that.
have you talked to your parents? they mite be able to help out by also talking to your school. bottom line is, this teacher needs to realise that wat he did wasnt fair and he shouldnt have done it. like i said hun talk to your principal.
email me if you want, i'd like to hear how you get on.
good luck xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2008): Ahh...
I did what you did. Around this time last year I started talking to my teacher about my depression and my threats on taking things further...
My teacher ended up telling the Head Master and a Senior teacher, which then led Senior Management, the child protection officer which at my school is the Head of the Infant department, and Deputy Head to find out. Which wasn't really her fault, but she did bring me up a lot and say I'm depressed and stuff in staff meetings.
So yeah to put it bluntly, I know how you feel...
Mine we're fortunate enough to leave me be. They noticed something was wrong with my behaviour but as I said they left me alone. I suggest you talk to your teacher. I yelled at mine which didn't make me feel much better...
I know he said thats it better for people to know and in a sense it is. One of the people on Senior Management said my depression was attention seeking. She didn't really know the story but she didn't know from the start so thought that was what it was. Doesn't make you feel much better. But this is bothering you a lot, and you need to make it known to him.
If he constantly persists that its better just stand up for yourself, cry or something, say you didn't want them to know and how you feel. I suggest you stop talking to him about it as well. He'll probably tell the teachers everything you say now, and it'll make you feel more exposed.
You could rely on the people on here, or try and get hold of a consuellor. You can do this confidentially or talk to people on Samaritans to find out more about what you can do. Samaritans however offer to listen, but not so much advice. You'll need to be specific with what help you want.
Or there is another site. Type in 'There 4 me' in google and you can talk to some 1-2-1 to find out more about what you can do.
My answers a bit all over the place but everything in my heads there. Yes your teacher from yours and my eyes did betray you, but you have to realize that he did it because he thought it was best for you.
And I know that sometimes thats hard to except. As I said, if you feel he's exposing to much of you, then don't talk to him anymore. You do have other people.
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reader, softballplaya  +, writes (8 July 2008):
 hey girl=]
well for starters don't let this all bother you. I know this is alot easier said than done but you have to try. If you act like a recluse and keep away from people and show what your going through then they will talk even more, so stay positive and keep your head high. If this problem is bothering you so much then why not confron the teachers that treat you differently and tell them that your better and no longer need their sympathy or what else have them. I'm very sorry you have to go through all this, it will get better tho believe me. If the other people in your school stare at you or make you feel uncomfortable don't show your bothered and especailly dont let this from attending your lessons and keeping your grades up. Thats the most important thing. Dont let something from your past interfere with your future. I would personally have a talk with the teacher that caused all of this. You should tell him that it was not his place to tell people about a personal part of your life. But keep a positive attitude and dont worry. Im sure things may seem really bad now but in a short period of time people usually forget and the subject will blow over if you dont feed into their childish games. Best of luck & take care=]
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