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I feel my girlfriend treats me like shit!

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Question - (19 September 2009) 8 Answers - (Newest, 30 January 2013)
A male Canada age 26-29, anonymous writes:

hey whats up guys and girls i need help i dont know what to do. my girlfriend always dresses nice when im not going to be around and she never wears nice things when i am does she have something on the side, is she cheating on me is she going to cheat on me i dont know please help its driving me nuts...

also to she treats me like shit i do everything for her and once i dont do something she flips and sulks she asks me to do everything and i just about do but she still treats me like shit she doesnt do shit for me like if i want to go some where early in the morning she never wakes up and we end up not going and im understanding that she neads her sleep so i dont care but when to day i slepped in when she wanted to go someplace she flipped when i woke up and i didnt evan know she wanted to go please help

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A male reader, funfunfun1021 United States +, writes (30 January 2013):

im having this same problem more or less, and i think ive figured out the reason, for some reason when you are to good to a women nomatter who it is they get to comfortable and expect you to drop what your doing for them, they become demanding and feel they can control your every thought, and after a women has reached this level theres only a few things you can do, you can start putting her in her place and show her your not taking the shit off her anymore, which will either work or will make her really mad and you will end up breaking up, or you can keep being the way you are and just learn to tune out the bitching, all women are gonna bitch thats just a part of life and no matter what you try to do or how hard you try they will always find a imperfection and you will always end up being miserable and feel like shit, my advice is to get a job where your not home very much, it wont fix the problem but atleast you will not have to hear the bitching and avoid some of the fighting you hate so much. (and dont worry all men have this problem, thats just a mystery of women that we will never understand and theres no way to fix it,)

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A male reader, rob770 United States +, writes (23 November 2012):

it seems to be the way of the a teenager a buddy a COUople years olde than me asked me what was more powerfull than money or drugs i foolishly said nothing.he replied with a sense of arrogance and said pussy.well i'm 32 now and have spent nearly my whole life since trying to please a woman ."no luck" my father used to say "boy dont ever try to figure them out just love them for who they are" then a little smile and quietly "they dont make sense" no offenseto anyone and im not some sexist pig i myself dailey am reminded the only medium is generally on there side as much as this may irritate us if we love them we will deal with it. i recomend you hold your ground loosely dont make it a hurtful arguement put if you let her ruffle her feathers occasionally it may be a good reminder that you are a man and that needs to be respected as well.many people forget or dont know enough about our history to recognize the god given order of the house.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2009):

Act out of character!

When she comes home from school and takes off her "Nice" clothes, to wear something shitty, act like it doesnt bother you.

Make an effort to let her see you coming back from work/school wearing something nice, and then change it to shitty clothes when going with her.

Do this for at least 1 month every day/week, and maybe you will see a difference. but always remember ACT OUT OF CHARACTER, DO WHAT YOU WOULD NORMALLY NOT DO! it keeps there mind wondering about what the hell could be going in your mind, the shell realize that she spends 3/4 of her day thinking about you!

Good Luck!

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A female reader, thatgothgirl20 United States +, writes (28 September 2009):

thatgothgirl20 agony auntWell, maybe she doesn't wear that kind of stuff around you because she is not ready to go to the "next level" yet with you and she is afraid that you will try to take it to the next level. Other people, will just admire what she is wearing and are not likely to touch her, depending on the person.

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A female reader, Helples United States +, writes (27 September 2009):

Helples agony auntYes, I definitely understand the reason for you to worry. Have you asked her directly about it?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2009):

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hey thx for the advise shes treating me a little bit better now that we spoke but she still never dresses to impress when im around like when she went to school she wore my favorite jeans and a top that showed of her breasts after school we got together for a movie and she wore the skinny jeans that i hate and a baggy sweater mean while im dressed to impress i wore the guess jeans she loves on me and her favorite guess top, to day shes wearing TNA pants witch i love another shirt that shows off her breasts and shoulders that you tie up in the back and she knows i love that kinda stuff but she never ever wears stuf like that when im around i mean she wears that stuff to work to school just any time when im not around and im concerned who is there to impress you know

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A female reader, Helples United States +, writes (19 September 2009):

Helples agony auntI think communication is the key. Have you asked her why does she dress more stylish when you're not around? It also could be that she feels very comfortable with you and knows she doesn't have to dress to impress you. =] But don't assume the worst, it's not healthy for the mind or the heart.

As for the other part, tell her she has to inform you at least the day before if she wants to go out so you won't sleep in. Ask her once in a while, if she could do the same for you. You're definitely going out on a limb for her, hopefully she can do the same. I hope the best for you and your girlfriend. =]

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A female reader, thatgothgirl20 United States +, writes (19 September 2009):

thatgothgirl20 agony auntSounds like you need to find someone else.

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