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*odkablue
writes:I'm beginning to feel like my life has come to a halt.Just come out of a bad and messy split with my fiancee of 5 years-he has been emotionally abusive and has completely and utterly financially drained me-i managed to get debt help but my credit ratings ruined for ages.I'm so upset i thought he loved me but we had a flat together-im now at my sisters and im still supporting him in the flat til he gets somewhere else.I'm so hurt-he has barely called since the split - I have called a couple of times to check for bills etc but thats it-its almost like he doesnt give a damn. he was pretty much likt this the last 4 years - cold and emotionally void. What the hell is wrong with me. I'm a good person but feel like a sack of crap. i feel noone likes me. i cant see much hope for the future-all i wanted was someone who loved me for mewho in the future is going to want to be with someone whos financially ruined ?I feel like crap
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reader, vodkablue +, writes (30 June 2009):
vodkablue is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou for taking the time to answer-it means a lot thankyou
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reader, natasia +, writes (30 June 2009):
 ok, just don't worry about the money thing - just deal in cash and don't spend what you don't have, and after a while you will feel secure again. so long as you have enough to pay your way, that's fine - buying leather sofas, etc, is a long way down the line (and let's face it, that's the kind of daft stuff we all get into debt over). You're not a mess - you've been under fire, under attack, for years, and that has worn you down. Now that you aren't with him, you will pop back up again. And then someone good will come along and he will indeed love you for you.
You need only one thing: faith. : ) Trust me - it'll be ok. I would put money on it (if i had any ; )
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reader, lovnlife  +, writes (30 June 2009):
stop it girl! you live you learn and thats all to it!but the biggest problem you are facing is why the hell are you still helping him!! STOP STOP you are smart enough to realize that he has financially screwd you why be botherd with someone like that any guy would be thankful to have a supportive person in there corner hell be happy that it was only 4 bad years and not 10 get dressed up go out and have fun and stop worring about who gone want you and start worring about what you want and what type of guy you want to deal with
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