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female
age
22-25,
*my86
writes:my boyfriend is good man,gives me lots of affection. yet i can't help but feel that i'm one of the lower priorites in his life.whenever i wanna do something,go somwhere,ask him to do somthing,it's always wait,i'm tired or i have plans with my daughter. on the other hand when it comes to his daughter and everyone else in his life, he makes that extra efforts and sacrifice.example,one night i ask to pick me up something from the store and he said he was tired,half an hour after his daughter ask him to do the same thing, he went without complaining, i never get to watch a movie and show i want to watch,because him or his daughter always want to watch somthing else, i sit and watch evan if i don't like it, just to make him happy. i used to live in another state not once did he came to visit me, i was the one traveling every weekend to see him, and he wouldn't evan walk me to the subway,because it's sunday and he wants to sleep.me on the other hand has to travel for 4 hrs,sometimes i'm so tired, but i did because i wanted to make him happy. he has pictures of his daughter everywhere in his house,wallet,locker,desk and not evan one with me.the other day we were cleaning i founds a few birthdays,and other i gave him in the garbage,and the one his daughter gave him he puts them away,says he will cherished them. i mean that's good,it's his daughter.but he shoildn't treat me this way. i do everything to please this man,but he treats me like a door mat! i can't takes this anymore! am i wrong to feel this way? Reply to this Question |
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reader, OtherStarfish  +, writes (30 April 2009):
 Dear former doormat. Tell him. Tell him how you feel. Tell you want parity.
if he cant \ wont \ doesn't then well - either stay as a 2nd class citizen or move on. You can do much better...
Star.x.
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reader, Ginalolabridga + ♥, writes (30 April 2009):
 No your not wrong to feel as you do cause he is treating you like shit but you are wrong to be running after his every beck and call that is why he is treating you like this he thinks he can do whatever the hell he wants with you.
Relationships are all about compromise and good communication something that is sadly lacking here, i would have a chat with him tell him how you feel and if they are not big changes then you may walk out his life for good! see if that gets his sorry ass moving.
Gina
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